<p>Print out this thread. Walk into your college’s counseling center and tell the person at the front desk that you need to some help. Show the counselor the print out of the thread.</p>
<p>In my college we have many International students and immigrants from around the world, and they don’t seem to have any trouble making friends. So I’m guessing that your problems making friends have more to do with you than everyone else. There are jerks in every school but I doubt your whole college is made up of xenophobes. </p>
<p>I’m sorry your family is so unkind to you…it sounds like you are being a little paranoid and maybe depressed? I also reccommend counseling, and maybe joining some clubs or a sport to make friends. If your college is too Greek-obsessed and that makes it hard to have a social life, maybe consider transferring out to a more urban, welcoming environment?</p>
<p>Chuy’s a bit harsh, but you really come across as quite crazy or manic in your posts in this thread.</p>
<p>side note: if you’re truly screwed w/ the fraternities at your school, cut your losses and (gasp) make some friends.</p>
<p>maybe consider transferring out to a more urban, welcoming environment?</p>
<p>too late, I am already senior. And I am in urban environment. I did not started making friends until sophmore year, because when I was freshmen I had stupid commute due to parents demands! I guesss it was then already too late becasue everyone formed cliques already. I doubt counselor can help me, especially the free one for poor. My counseling in school is limited only to specific services.</p>
<p>I am not gonna let it just go from them. I will remember them for being unfairly harsh on me. Why did they screw up my time?! At least they could have been honest from the beginning. I feel things would go then a lot better.</p>
<p>Your first and main problem is that you’ve given these people power over you.</p>
<p>“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” - Eleanor Roosevelt</p>
<p>You’ve conceded.
You need to let it go and maybe see a professional about any other problems you may dealing with. But in all honesty, never give anyone this type of control over you.</p>
<p>Alix I thin they have no problem because they are in NYC. New Yorkers travel often abroad and often see students from abroad. I am in midwest, in chicago. I heard Chicago is the most segregated city in the US. No wonder it is not immigrant friendly. I get it on my skin.</p>
<p>In high school, senior year, I saw two guys who are Serbians in lunch room. They always set alone in table and not with anybody, even though I think they knew English much better than me and have been for longer.</p>
<p>You can make friends when you’re a commuter. You can make friends sophomore year. On another note, living in a dorm does not automatically grant you an amount of friends. You need to work on it and gain some confidence, make yourself a person that other people like to be around and they’ll want to be your friend. </p>
<p>Sometimes, it’s more about realizing who you aren’t than who you are. Don’t wedge yourself into a niche that isn’t you, let yourself exist and stop being your own harshest critic.</p>
<p>The Counseling Center at your college is there to counsel students. The charge will be minimal–often times it’s free. </p>
<p>It’s never too late to make friends and meet new people. You came into the college as a freshman. Other kids transferred there as a sophomores or juniors and made the adjustment to the college social scene despite not knowing anyone beforehand. </p>
<p>A counselor would be good for you. At least you’ll have someone to talk to and discuss your feelings with. No one should carry around as much anger as you seem to have. Talk with a counselor and express your thoughts rather than keep them all bottled up inside. You’ll feel much better.</p>
<p>try going to the gym and let off some steam by working out.</p>
<p>What school do you go to in Chicago and what frat is it?</p>
<p>Platsoubrh, I still won’t forgive them, not at least now. Chicago overpowers me. Crazy town. They changed Sears Tower to Willis Tower. Corrupt city, corrupt politicians and corrupt people.</p>
<p>What school do you go to in Chicago and what frat is it? [</p>
<p>That would be too much information. Someone who knows me might be reading this and recognize its me. I think it is a frat made of bunch of snobs who made some new kind of fraternity for chosen “elite class” jerks.</p>
<p>A counselor would be good for you. At least you’ll have someone to talk to and discuss your feelings with. No one should carry around as much anger as you seem to have. Talk with a counselor and express your thoughts rather than keep them all bottled up inside. You’ll feel much better.</p>
<p>I did with one counselor and expressed everything what I was doing. Once I did something I regretted and there was nothing he could say about that, especially since my therapy is psychodynamic, not cognitive-behavioral (for which you must pay $$$). I could repeat over and over the same and nothing gain from that. </p>
<p>psychodynamic is just to uncover to surface some unconscious awarness. It does not involve any advice! And it heavily depends on relationship! and they warn that any time you think about hurting yorself and otehrs, they tell you they will release records. </p>
<p>Cognitive-behavioral therapy which probably I need that more, is like it involves advice and changing thinking, ex. I failed test, doctor: but you got B, etc, while psychodynamic is much less than that.</p>
<p>What bothers me the most is that I have so far only enemies who I made them by making friends with only few of them. They make nothing of me, when they see me on street, they laugh, they disregard. I wish they were gone and did not have to see them on campus ever again. I get headache from that and cannot sleep on nights!!!</p>
<p>Does it bother you that those 4 posts could easily have been one?</p>
<p>also, how do I apply to join the “evil fraternity”? sounds fun :)</p>
<p>Join their gay profile on some dating website, and you’re in! They are on lovemeat.net and their screenname is bit_chsharks. You’ll love them! They are the gayest fraternity ever!</p>
<p>marquee forget about the fraternity. We’ve all been rejected at one point or another in our lives, whether it be by colleges, fraternities, or just people we want to be friends with; these bad things don’t only happen to you. The important thing is to move past it and try for some other goals. Listen to the people on here when they say you need to start joining clubs, meeting people, and getting counseling (I’m still don’t quite understand why there is no free counseling with advice at your school, but even some counseling is better than none and they may still be able to prescribe you anti-depressants or something). Some of these posts might seem harsh, but really everyone is just trying to get you out of your state of self-pity and “there’s nothing I can do now” mentality.</p>
<p>Also, if connecting to American students is difficult, try joining an international students club at your college.</p>
<p>man the OPs english is horrible, its like reading a puzzle. I am a foreigner too and being rejected several times by Americans so dont flame me :)</p>
<p>I will only forget about them if I do not see them again showing off themselves in school like - “look at us!..” Ya know. They do very aggressive campaign yet at the same time they do very aggresive selection even though they still have a small number of members.</p>
<p>Who’s OP? Why is reading his like a puzzle?</p>
<p>There is no such thing as international student club. </p>
<p>Perhaps people mock me because I am short and little overweight and kinda stooping. No one on my campus is fat and everyone has hot boddy and premium clothes. But how to loose weight when I am forced to work out at night? Is it still possible? To loose 10 poinds in the next 6 weeks?what about round-shoulders? I am in need oc chiropractic but damn I cannot afford it! There is nothing much I can do about this!Well it is easy to say for others, they get rejected too but at least they are not alone and their moms don’t yell to them (boys) that it is not good they work out muscles because they have tiny bones or don’t like muscular guys and getting ****ed at making or bringing own food. Can’t smile because I have crooked smile and can’t afford orthodontist. Because I am ugly, I creep not only girls, but even guys because they would be afraid I would scare their girls.</p>
<p>ok, this is definitely a ■■■■■, and i wasted 3 minutes of my time typing a post.</p>