<p>To summarize: Guys have asked her out, but she wasn’t interested in dating them. She turned them down. It was uncomfortable.</p>
<p>As a guy, I’d prefer that you just be upfront about it.</p>
<p>First couple of times, do the usual polite thing. However, if it’s been two or three times and they don’t take the hint, then you can be overt. Yes, it doesn’t seem very nice, but think about how the guy is treating you and how that’s being a problem.</p>
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<p>I don’t see what’s hard to understand. its just like mflevity said, I’ve never dated or had a boyfriend because I chose to turn guys down, or like I said, pretend to already have a boyfriend.</p>
<p>And there is some really go advice on this thread, thanks guys 
and the main trend of all of it seems to be that I need to just suck it up and be firm rather than try to spare feelings.</p>
<p>^Yeah, but don’t be rude or mean :(</p>
<p>Oh I’ve got some experience as a girl in the same situation. Just stop it before they even ask. See, guys have their own odd ways of flirting I’m sure you can notice (touching a little too much, odd jokes and comments, etc) before they even ask you out. Just kill it right there, straight out say the next time one touches your shoulder or back a little too long “Stop that”, “Yeah…no”", and move the arm, leg, whatever away. Anything your cousin/brother wouldn’t do they shouldn’t either and just kill it at the start if you don’t want the guy.</p>
<p>It’s a pretty good system for me, especially because if I do like a guy and I allow his moves to continue he knows I’m not just flirting with all guys for attention but am allowing only him because I like it. Gives him more confidence I guess?</p>
<p>so the next question is, if a girl isn’t responding to your advances, what are some techniques to get her to? :P</p>
<p>schaden, if the girl isn’t responding to your advances…then move on, she’s not feeling you, dude.
Sorry, bro.</p>
<p>^ get a 6pack</p>
<p>^ Tutor her in a subject she’s having trouble with. It’s how my parents met…and my mom was waaay out of my dad’s league. 
In response to the OP: A simple, but straightforward,
“Our friendship is more valuable than a relationship to me than a relationship ever could be.” should suffice. Also, it’s pertinent to mention, that it’s important to monitor your own actions, but that it’s also not entirely your own fault if a guy does end up liking you. Infatuation can, and often is, one-sided. Thus, the action that you take personally are nearly negated in the eyes of your admirer.
I agree on stopping the “flirting” early on, though. Be clear and straightforward. It’s how I’ve always operated and how I always will. Saves a lot of heartache :)</p>
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<p>If you said “I find it hard to resist chocolate”, that would imply that you eat chocolate.</p>
<p>If you say “I find it hard to turn guys down”, that would imply that you don’t turn guys down.</p>
<p>What you actually meant by it isn’t obvious (if you frequently turn guys down, it would imply that it isn’t hard for you to do) so I was a bit confused. Perhaps I over-thought it.</p>
<p>Anyway, if it is the case that you have been telling guys that you have a boyfriend, I wouldn’t stick to that strategy for long if you don’t go to a really big school. Eventually, it may come back to bite you in the ass.</p>
<p>I think the best advice is just a firm “No”. Guys trying to pick on girls have a game plan that says the girl will be submissive to their advances. If early on you break into their little fantasy world with a firmly-said (and not cutely said) “No”, it will be like cold water.</p>
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*** no? Speaking from a guy’s point of view, that’s just really, really bad.</p>
<p>And yes, everyone else is right, it’d be a lot easier if girls were slightly more direct. If you’re not interested, plz say so before we look like idiots.</p>
<p>I agree with the above statement. Don’t sugarcoat it with the “our friendship is more valuable…,” that’s the worst thing you can say a stern no is the best option. </p>
<p>Just say no.</p>