<p>Not having had a girlfriend at 20 is a lot more normal than you might think. If you were 30, I'd worry.</p>
<p>A lot of this depends on the person. If a person is specifically looking for a relationship, that's one thing, but there are also a number of people who aren't interested in any kind of romantic relationships at all. I don't think you can assign what's "normal" and not just by age number.</p>
<p>lol topic creator thats messed up you dbag...im not gonna stop the fun tho.</p>
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lol topic creator thats messed up you dbag...im not gonna stop the fun tho.
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<p>What's more messed up here? Me asking for advice on a 'messed up' situation (as I'm sure you have been in one too at some point in your life) or someone replying by calling them a douche bag?</p>
<p>i used to be really shy, still am but i still talk to ppl.
I found out the reason y i wasn't invited to a lot of things was because I approached ppl and made friends one by one. As in one day i saw Jane sitting alone so i talked to her and became her friend. THe next i see Tom and becomes his friend. Then Tom and Jane have a party. THey dont' invite me because Jane thinks i dont know Tom or anything else; TOm thinks i dont know any1 so he doesnt invite me. Although i know everyone; they all think i dont know anyone cuz i've only talked to them 1 on 1, and not in a group. kinda confusing but i hope u understand wat i just said.</p>
<p>Another reason might be that people dont think ur a party type. Ppl might think u would get bored or "ruin the fun" for other ppl because ur too shy or quiet? I was in that situation. I wasn't invited by one of my really close friends cuz she said something along the line that i'm boring that i would ruin the fun... enuf said i'm no longer close to her.</p>
<p>Ppl generally invite ppl who are loud, talkative, or know a lot of ppl. Be sure to hang out in a group as much as w/ 1 person so that everyone knows that other ppl know u as well. I know this from experience.</p>
<p>Yea..b4 high school, i had almost no friend. I was always by myself for years and years. I had many acquaintances but i didn't hang out w/ anyone. Then high school... i just talked to ppl a lot, especially online if i dont c them in real life. Now i have a lot of close friends, best friends, acquaintances...</p>
<p>I have never had a bf because things happened and now i don't want a relationship anytime soon. It's by choice though.</p>
<p>Become close to ppl by talking to them about something deeper than just asking questions like: hows ur day, hows the weather, did you do ur hw... Express urself and make them trust u. Iono about u because ur a guy. BUt for me the way i became close to my friends was just talking to them about deeper things in life. Find things in common...</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>So in other words I need to approach groups of people? That's kind of ackward though but I guess I could try. It's a little intimidating but I bet I could do it.</p>
<p>And I need to become loud and talkative and know lots of people? I don't like being loud. It's obnoxious. I definitely understand about trying to make more connections though.</p>
<p>Thanks for some better input. Too bad inopa had nothing beneficial to add to the topic. ;)</p>
<p>lol i just read my post and realized i made a lot of mistakes. i think i'm 2 sleepy i should go to sleep itz already 3am -,-</p>
<p>i'm not loud and talkative. just be average and dont look like a boring person thats all. Itz good to know ppl, it's better to let ppl know that u know other ppl...</p>
<p>join a fraternity. not all of them will be your friend but im sure there will be a small circle you will click with.</p>
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<p>that, or if you are a pretty girl... they get the world handed to them...</p>
<p>well</p>
<p>proton</p>
<p>That is what I am talking about, I think theres a difference between having a real friend and being forced to be with sombody. to join a frat is just like a sport. You will be with the other people and you will know them.</p>
<p>about the not ever having a gf at 20. I am the kind of guy that doeant ask girls out, girls ask me out. so in my first year of college. I has 31 girls ask me out. I declined all. I dont know why, I just did,</p>
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<p>That is what I am talking about, I think theres a difference between having a real friend and being forced to be with sombody. to join a frat is just like a sport. You will be with the other people and you will know them.
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<p>you missed the point. i said that not all of them will be your friend but theres a good chance that he will click with a small group of people.</p>
<p>No I am saying that all of them most likely would be your friend. But if you guys were not in frat there would be almost zero chance of being their friend outside of that.</p>
<p>oh ok. yeah we have the same idea.</p>
<p>The fraternity idea seems plausible except the fees suck. =</p>
<p>I guess I'm just the type of person who is destined to always initiate things no matter what. I don't think I come off as boring to most people. I don't just ask simple questions the whole time.</p>
<p>go up to some guy and say.</p>
<p>hey want to be friends.</p>
<p>My mom went to UNCC. I live in Asheville. Charlotte is a good place to meet people if you know where to look. Try meeting people off campus, try anything. Keep it going though, don't just hang out with people and then when the sporting season is over or something drop them.</p>
<p>I had no friends in school... but made some really good friends when I started college. The thing is... next year is their last year in college. Ah well... we'll have had 4 good years, and most of them are staying on in the same city afterwards.
And with the relationship thing? I was 20 when I met my first serious BF. Don't worry about that.</p>