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<p>Wow what a wonderful contribution to the topic.</p>
<p>Why can't you tell the RA? That's what you're supposed to do. You tell the RA, you tell people around you, and they give him a hard time. I honestly wouldn't stand for any of that crap. Close the door, don't let him in. If he comes in, just say "bye" and force him out. If that doesn't work, laugh maniacally everytime he makes a joke about you and get him uncomfortable. I don't know. But you've certainly got to stand your ground. This isn't Jr. high, you're basically an adult.</p>
<p>Yeah are they threatening swirlies. You got into college b/c you have the responsiblity to handle it yourself or go to the right sources when you can't. This sounds like a place to start locking your door or going to your RA or the cops. Dragging you somewhere sounds like an assault. Who is this guy who wants to get you drunk anyway? Does he want to rape you? Why is it so important to him? He's obviously not a friend. Just call him a loser and accuse him of coming on to you.</p>
<p>Or, have your parents call the school. Trust me, the school WILL take action as your parents are the real customers with $$$. Always work. Always work. My last school is so scared to death that they will get to what the student needs.</p>
<p>Yesterday, he got really drunk and started to come after me. I just flat out told him to " I am never drinking with you or partying with you, so leave me alone" in front of everyone. He laughed it off, but then walked off and I haven't heard a thing from him since. I have my fingers crossed that it will end here but if it doesn't I am more than ready for him. Again thanks for all the advice, it has really helped me figure out what to do.</p>
<p>you the man</p>
<p>Although fighting the drunken dude probabley isn't the best thing to do, if you do decide to fight him, make sure that a roommate or friend of yours is somewhere nearby to call the cops or an ambulance if he pulls out a knife, or, ironically, a broken beer bottle. What you did sounds like a much better idea, though, and hopefully it will work.</p>
<p>good thing you didn't tattle tale on him to the RA or cops. that would just make you look like a punk.</p>
<p>Why don't you just drink (I do) you might enjoy it.</p>
<p>I do drink, I just really have no interest in drinking with this guy. As I have said before, nasty things tend to happen to people that drink with him.</p>
<p>Oh, I didn't read it, I just thought you had a thing against drinking.</p>
<p>Good for you. I was rooting for ya man.</p>
<p>Glad you didn't have to start a fight /or/ go the RA....too bad this lasted so long though! What an ass...</p>
<p>In the future, just remember if talking it out and being assertive about it (i.e. "**** off") doesn't work, starting a fight is a really childish thing to do. Adults don't do that *<strong><em>, they call the police. This is college, not elementary school. Pinning down a drunk guy with an army of friends isn't smart, and as much as guys like to think it does, choosing other options instead of fighting only makes you look less respectable to the people you want to beat the *</em></strong> out of, and you cares about them?</p>
<p>But maybe because I'm a girl I just don't understand this. Maybe when a client doesn't pay a partner at a firm for a report, the partner decides to kick his ass instead of talking to the president of his company. Maybe. But my guess would be no.</p>
<p>Or, have your parents call the school. Trust me, the school WILL take action as your parents are the real customers with $$$. Always work. Always work. My last school is so scared to death that they will get to what the student needs.</p>
<p>dude i totally disagree - I absolutely HATE even the suggestion. You are an adult - friggin start acting like it. Don't go crying to mommy as soon as you're a little uncomfortable in college. Go take care of it yourself - talk to the RA, the police, whoever.
As a sidenote, I don't think parents should have as much sway as they apparently do in schools (at any level). But that is a topic for a different thread.
Man, you really shouldn't have ressurrected this thread lol...</p>
<p>I used to work in the alcoholism field. Sounds like the guy is a bully who has a serious problem with alcohol. I suspect that due to his drinking and other habits, he won't have the grades to return to college second semester.</p>
<p>Don't let him in your room. Close your door and lock it. Do not open it unless there's someone outside whom you really do want to see. If he knocks, just ignore him. Surely, you can figure out who he is when he knocks. You are under no obligation to let him in.</p>
<p>Talk to your RA. That's what RA's are for. Even call the RA if the drunk guy shows up at your room knocking on your door. There's also a big chance that you're not the only person the bully is harassing. The drunk guy sounds like trouble -- big trouble, and the school needs to know about his behavior before someone gets hurt. Telling the RA about a person who is potentially threatening is not being a punk. It's acting like a responsible adult.</p>
<p>Do not, NOT, bother to drink with the drunk guy. He is an obnoxious bully. You don't need buddies like that. He also might be the type who thinks it's funny to slip something in your drink or to otherwise put you into harm's way. By drinking with him, you will not change him. He is a person to avoid.</p>
<p>Do not get into a fight with him. That will not help anything: It will only make the bully mad and possibly get you kicked out of school. The school would not have any sympathy for you if in response to be harrassed, instead of going to the RA or other school authorities, you chose to get into a fight. You'd seem to have a big behavior problem, too.</p>
<p>The student's behavior that you're describing sounds like stalking, and that literally can be very dangerous, and you may need to get the university police to tell the student in no uncertain terms to stay away from you.</p>