<p>Basically I applied to transfer out of this campus and I have not told my friends I made in this university yet (yeah I know, I am a scumbag). Not sure if I would even get accepted (though they offered me admission last year but it was really late)</p>
<p>It feels like I am keeping a secret from them. Note that neither they or me uses social group sites like Facebook, so I have no idea how to keep in touch since we won't be even in the same town anymore.</p>
<p>Should I wait till the last minute? The reason I am transferring out is because I am heading to a bigger state university. More classes to take.</p>
<p>Also, e-mail - schools typically give you a student e-mail account. Texting/phone calls. If they aren’t very close friends, prepare to hear/see little of them. If they’re close, then you’ll need to work to keep the friendship going.</p>
<p>To answer your actual question, I would wait to hear whether I was accepted to transfer before telling them. No point in upsetting them if you end up not leaving. I wouldn’t wait until the last minute either, if they’re close friends. More casual friends, then there’s no need to hurry and tell them. Just be honest about your reasons.</p>
<p>dEFINITELY wait until you are accepted, you visit, and decide you like it. Your reason: “I love my friends here, but I realized that I needed more classes in XYZ” Lots of people apply to transfer, and by the time the decision must be finalized they change their mind!</p>
<p>I disagree. I think that your friends will be angrier if you wait until you were accepted to actually tell them. I know if a close friend of mind did that, I would, and I’m not very sentimental. If you tell them now, even if you will definitely not change your mind, they’ll feel like they had a say in it because you allowed them the time to attempt at keeping you at the uni, and therefore not be so angry once you do leave… I don’t know, that’s just my personal opinion. Good luck.</p>
<p>No one should choose a college based on friends. Yes, some college friends will be life-long friends - but that will happen no matter what, if they’re really good friends, and transferring won’t change that. If it does, then they weren’t good friends to begin with. Perhaps telling your best friends that you’re considering transferring would be fine, but don’t let them change your mind by guilting you or providing poor reasons for staying. You’ll have to use your judgement when deciding who to tell and when. If they’ll be negative or turn their backs on you, you’re better off without them anyway.</p>
<p>Most cell phones don’t differentiate between whether you’re calling in the same area code or anywhere else in the US. If anything, it’s good to be on the same cell carrier & sometimes pay attention to the time you call, but otherwise it’s just minutes. Often same carrier phone to same carrier phone doesn’t count the minutes used.</p>
<p>If it “feels like a drag” to email & you don’t like to call folks and none of you are on social media sites, how do YOU propose to keep in touch with these friends? Snail mail works as well, but I suspect you would REALLY consider that a HUGE drag.</p>
<p>Personally, I see no point in telling people what I MIGHT do if I MIGHT NOT do it. Once I’m SURE I’ll do it & have been accepted and have everything lined up, I’d share the info with my close friends. That’s how I transferred & it worked OK. We exchanged letters for a while but eventually got too busy with our respective campuses.</p>
<p>I’d wait until you have an acceptance in your pocket, too. Then, it’s done and they won’t stampede you with months upon months of why your current school is ‘so much better’.</p>
<p>Texting is less of a drag then it used to be, since you have all these smartphones. Remember when you had to press a button three times to get the letter you wanted?</p>
<p>Did you tell them you were applying to transfer?</p>
<p>If not, then I don’t know how close you are to these people to worry about it. Friends share stuff. My son could not wait to transfer and he did not keep it a secret. He did tell them right away when he was accepted. He does use facebook, but I’m sure he told them in person too.</p>
<p>If they are your friends, they would be happy that you are happy and will wish you well. You will talk and decide how to keeep in touch. If they knew you applied they are probably wondering ifyou got in.</p>
<p>I told my friends at my last school that I was thinking of transferring. They didn’t really think I’d go through with it, but they were less shocked, angry, and upset when I actually did leave. </p>
<p>We text a lot and use facebook to keep in touch.</p>
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