<p>How much is urban legend, how much does it occur? 99 pct, 50 pct, 20 or 10 pct or less? Naive question from a parent of a freshman who has not seen it directly yet with her roommate, but wonders about next yr's roommate.</p>
<p>depends on the individual and the relationship the roommates have with each other. what are these percentages you’re asking about?</p>
<p>i know some people who sexile their roommate at least once a week; i know some who never do. it really depends. i really wouldn’t worry too much about it. it’s usually just a minor inconvenience and rarely a long-term, frequent problem.</p>
<p>It really depends on who you’re roommate is and how well you communicate with your roommate. Generally if you have a good relationship a roommate will text you to make sure it’s ok and give you ample time to get stuff from your room. They usually will find someplace else to go if you have a test the next day, something important, etc.<br>
It’s usually an inconvenience but they are then willing to return the favor.<br>
Plus if it’s an overnight thing you can usually find a friend who will let you crash on their futon for a night.</p>
<p>Most people aren’t actually big enough d-bags to do it unexpectedly.</p>
<p>The key thing to do, if you’re a good roommate, is to ask for their schedule and know when they aren’t going to be there during the day. Or wait till they leave at night to go somewhere, and ask them to text you with a time estimate when they are coming back. Afternoon and evening sex! This way you can get laid while not imposing, and no one has to worry. I’ve actually only done it to a roommate once or twice. Between my roommate, her roommate, and isolate public places we never really had to worry about it.</p>
<p>Just make sure to invest in some air freshener spray to get the sex and latex smell out of the air, your roommate will appreciate it.</p>
<p>I had a pretty sexually active roommate during my freshman year. He was fair about it, though, because if he used the room this time, then next time he’d go somewhere else. The other two guys on the hall who sexiled their roommates had problems because they never went anywhere else.</p>
<p>So, out of thirty-eight freshman, only three regularly sexiled their roommates.</p>
<p>Last year when I had a steady girlfriend I mainly just tried to know when my roommate wasn’t going to be there anyway, but my freshman year we had an ‘agreement’ with another room that if our roommate was getting lucky we could crash on the futon in the other room. As freshmen we never really ran into the problem of having two bring home girls at once…</p>
<p>What is this sexile I keep hearing about?</p>
<p>I feel fortunate that my roommate has no problem with me being there.</p>
<p>It just means that your roommate kicks you out to have sex with someone.</p>
<p>I was sexiled by my roommate at two different schools. It’s pretty common. I couldnt estimate a percentage, though.</p>
<p>Wouldn’t the roomate feel embarassed at all that his/her roommate is aware that he/she is having sex in there?</p>
<p>There were times when my roommate came to the room and found that I was asleep. Apparently, the girls he was with did not care that I was in the room. Due to my comic inability to wake up between 1:00 AM and 3:00 AM, his actions never woke me up. Consequently, “rude” or not, his actions did not bother me.</p>
<p>If I can sleep through a fire alarm, I can sleep through two drunk people having sex.</p>
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<p>No, not at all.</p>
<p>It’s pretty common–happened to me every single year. Some people are jerks and would even do it intentionally.</p>
<p>Only happened to me once – but my roommate wasn’t having sex - he was in bed with a girl (who he didn’t sleep with but I assumed he was going to) so I voluntarily gave him the courtesy of sleeping on the couch in the common room.</p>
<p>Since freshman year, I haven’t physically shared my bedroom again until this semester (end of my third year). Nope, haven’t been sexiled. I never felt the need to kick him out during fun time and neither has he. It would just be plain rude, honestly - like where is he going to go at 2am? I’ve been to girls rooms and they never kicked out their roommates, either. In fact last time the girl I was with - her roommate was getting lucky at the same time - yeah that was quite interesting.</p>
<p>Anyway, my roommate and I established early that we don’t care though. Live and let live is the best philosophy in my book.</p>
<p>So no, other than my one voluntary time, no one has kicked me out of my bed so they could “get it on.” Frankly I think no one has the right to do that, either, unless its agreed upon in advance.</p>
<p>It’s very common.</p>
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…classy…</p>
<p>neither of my roommates have been sexually active, so it’s never been a problem for me.</p>
<p>i’ve never kicked either of them out, but my boy and i always tried to only utilize the room when the opportunity arose (i.e. when i knew she’d be out, etc.). there were times when we’d hear the key turning in the lock and have to yell “DON’T COME IN!” & rush to reclothe, but it was never super inconvenient. whenever i had random hookups prior to that relationship, they’d pretty much always be at his place.</p>
<p>also i feel like i spent a LOT more time in my bf’s room than he did in mine, so we probably ****ed off his roommate a lot more than we did mine (even though i think his roomie actually liked me more than he liked my boyfriend haha).</p>
<p>peter_parker–
what? are you serious??</p>
<p>that’s just weird.
unless every girl you’ve been with is, you know, into that. i’m serious. unless you have some kind of fetish, most people want privacy when they’re sweaty and naked and making strange noises with another person. it’s not that the rest of the world is uptight and doesn’t know how to “live and let live”.</p>
<p>Hey, I never said I preferred some sort of exhibitionism. I really don’t want any other males in the room at the time - but sadly, it just doesn’t work out that way when you share a room. Like I said - I don’t understand sexiling when you don’t have a common room or something – where are they going to go? You wake him up at 2 am so he can take a stroll around the park until 3 am? That’s incredibly rude and I’d be pretty peeved if someone did that to me. But I guess if you’re <em>that</em> uncomfortable.</p>
<p>Most of my college life I’ve had my own room though.</p>
<p>yeah, leah, i think a lot of people get off on the idea of doing it in semi-public because of the threat of getting caught. peter_parker’s situation is just the opposite. he’s doing it and his roommate’s totally aware and likely if he’s in the room can’t concentrate on anything but his roommate’s a few feet away, getting it on. no thrill there unless you’re into voyeurism or something.</p>
<p>peter_parker, as everyone’s responses have indicated, it’s actually not true that “it just doesn’t work out that way when you share a room”. millions of people have made it work. if it’s a reasonable time or there’s some common room, roommate leaves. if it’s unreasonable timing, christ, keep it in your pants. i mean, again, unless all parties are into that sort of thing, which, well, whatever. it’s not that it’s IMPOSSIBLE to avoid hooking up while your roommate is in the room. i just know that if i were even really drunk and a guy brought me back to his room to hook up, and was like, hey, my roommate can’t leave, but he’s cool if we do it in here while he is, i’d be like, “no way.” and if i were miraculously so drunk that it seemed like a sexy idea, i’d probably wake up and feel really, really, really weird about it. i <em>think</em> i speak for the majority of people on this.</p>
<p>but again, to each his own. just want to point out that it is not impossible to avoid hooking up while your roommate is in the room.</p>