<p>I’m wondering if the refusal doesn’t stem from the private HS agreeing to send interim transcripts for the son’s friend’s college applications. Either HS tuition was paid up at that point (typically Jan 1 deadline for state university applications), or the HS received some assurances that tuition would be paid prior to graduation. Either way, I can see why the HS Business Office is grumpy.</p>
<p>Paying is a requirement of attending a private and having paid all fees, including book fines, yearbook, cafeteria charges etc etc before getting the transcript is certainly in the contracts.
With our tuition contract, there is a tuition insurance–similar to what our student’s college has to cover these kinds of things.
Are they not going to pay the college as well?
They are lucky the private school didn’t kick the kid out. Sorry, no sympathy here. Communication with the private school long ago, and the faithful payment of that debt is in order.
The college should be concerned that they might not get paid as well.</p>
<p>In my experience most schools, public or private, require fees be paid before transcripts are released. It’s standard procedure.</p>
<p>As a small business owner and landlord, I definitely agree that some people want the product without paying. Once they have what they want, good luck getting a reply or the money due. Perhaps that sounds harsh, but it’s the reality. Once the leverage is gone, so are most chances of getting paid. I think the school is being reasonable.</p>
<p>Apparently, according to my son, the HS reconsidered the familys’ appeal, worked out a plan and released the transcript.</p>
<p>From my point of view, this simply reinforces our decision for having sent our sons to this school. A good prep education, fundamental tools needed for life and a compassionate regard for the students and their family.</p>
<p>^Oh how nice! Now all the other kids can indirectly pay for this deadbeat family!</p>
<p>I am glad that it all worked out. I am just concerned that with everything that is going on with this family, they will now have the stress of paying for both the old and new schools.</p>
<p>Uhhhh…never mind, wasted energy</p>
<p>He could have deferred his college plans a year and perhaps get a GED. Then he wouldn’t NEED that high school diploma.</p>
<p>HOWEVER, I do believe the family should pay the high school debt before they allow their child to go to college.</p>
<p>I’m glad it worked out for the sake of the student. BUT I do hope the family has someone giving them some sound financial advice for the future.</p>
<p>Perhaps put a little bluntly by starbright, but the school, like any business, will charge all students more to make up for those who won’t pay.</p>
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<p>StageforSurvivor…compassion by the school, uh maybe/maybe not.</p>
<p>Still someone else pays the kid’s tab… </p>
<p>Maybe it would have been nice if you had offered to help pay the student’s bill…to teach that “compassion” to your student…
and perhaps among the graduating class…distribute the debt to all of the class/parents??</p>
<p>THEN it would be about compassion your school was teaching/students/families embracing…and putting feet to that mantra of why you liked the school. Otherwise it is empty words.</p>
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<p>I don’t know why, but I always assumed that the phrase ‘the school worked out a plan’ just meant that the parents would pay off what they owed in some kind of installment plan, rather than just waiving the entire tuition bill / passing it on to everyone else.</p>
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<p>True. It’s really a guessing game, isn’t it?</p>
<p>All those rushing to judgment don’t know the facts of the case (the nature of the agreement). But of course, when you’re an anonymous poster on the Internet, that need not matter. </p>
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<p>True enough, and perhaps I was too blunt. But this is how I would feel if a family did this at the school our kids attend and all I know is what has been provided so far. The reality is this: what can the school possibly do to ensure they will eventually be paid after they have nothing to hold over them, like a transcript? </p>
<p>Sure I don’t have enough information as the OP did not provide it…but hey you post such commentary on the internet and viola, yup, people make quick judgments based on what you gave them to work with. Let’s not forget, the point of the original post seemed to be to get our anonymous opinion and it sure didn’t seem exactly balanced (but rather biased against the school, despite limited information the OP apparently had). </p>
<p>What I see is a well off family (well off enough to send their kid to private school to being with), who apparently seemed to have NOT ‘worked out a plan’ with the private school until this very late date and only when they were forced to (or else why on earth did this whole transcript withholding thing occur at all?). </p>
<p>I will absolutely say I might be 100% wrong here, but i strongly doubt this family will ever pay their bill. So yeah, I’ll make a leap and a judgment here. But who cares? The family will never know what I thought (this didn’t even happen to the OP).</p>
<p>The speculation is disgusting. How do you all know that the parents here aren’t really people who fell on hard times and are putting forth some kind of payment plan, even if it’s just $10 / week or whatever? Good grief.</p>
<p>^exactly…</p>
<p>Few years ago, when there was a down turn of economy, many people were losing their jobs, our kid’s school had a fund raising to set up a fund to help families who have temporary fallen into a hard time. I want to stress temporary because the school operated based on expecting everyone to pay. The community was very generous and many families benefited from it. </p>
<p>Since we have been with the for many years, we heard quite a bit more stories from the administrator. There were families that asked for assistance, but refused to sell family vacation home, or cancel an European vacation because it was paid for already. </p>
<p>It is hard for us to speculate this family’s situation, but for a family to be able to afford a private education up to 12th grade(even beginning at 9th), the family must have had above average income. People like that, even fallen at hard time, would have substantial credit lines or savings, and they make a choice how they want to use it. I know at my kids’s school, if a family truly needed financial aid, it would have been given in the beginning of the year.</p>
<p>“People like that” may have been living paycheck to paycheck and making substantial sacrifices in lifestyle to give their kid the best education possible. You don’t know the facts, but you’re sure quick to pass judgment. </p>
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<p>Private school is not the only option when it comes to K-12. I have no issue in judging people who want something they won’t pay for. If someone is living from pay check to check, then pick a different option. It’s not someone else problem that you want something you can’t afford.</p>
<p>I think its just bad judgement on the parents part, they could afford it before but had just fallen in a bad economy and illness causes the hole even bigger, it happens all the time especially in this downturn.</p>
<p>Private school also gave a false impression that whoever attending will get in top colleges which is not the case, but ppl still fall for it.</p>
<p>No, private schools do not tell parents their kid’s would get in top colleges by attending, and many parents do not choose private schools for that reason either.</p>