<p>I know this sounds like a stupid question, but Im really worried about it. When I was looking for colleges, I wanted one that had Video Production as a major which really limited my choices. The school that I am currently attending was the smartest choice financially, but not socially. This school is known as a big party school and all Im meeting is people who party constantly. I have yet to meet somebody who doesnt go out partying. I am a real nerd who was in the top 20 of her high school graduating class and I am fairly mature and Im just looking for people who are going to be more mature and more
nerdy I guess. I mean, I dont really dress like these girls and I dont act like them either.
Do nerdy people even exist at a school like this? Where should I go to try and make friends?</p>
<p>Don’t worry! I’m sure that you’ll find someone like you, or perhaps you’ll be surprised that there’s more to what you see 
College is a chance for you to meet different types of people, so why keep yourself limited to one “type” of person? It’s completely nerve wrecking, but get yourself out there and talk to people you wouldn’t have originally talked to in high school. More than likely you’ll be pleasantly surprised.</p>
<p>Are you attending UCSB by any chance?</p>
<p>I am not attending UCSB, haha. Sorry!</p>
<p>I understand that I need to meet all different types of people and I have. I’ve met all sorts of people that I wouldn’t normally be friends with and I’ve hung out with them on several occasions. However, because we don’t have the same interests, it is hard to get together and do things. The only thing we really have in common is that we’re nice with eachother. I want somebody that I can just chill with on a nerdy level and I just don’t know where to find that something familiar when I’m stuck in a sea of parties.</p>
<p>" I want somebody that I can just chill with on a nerdy level"
Are you at USC? Or is there an Engineering school at your college? That is where you will find nice, smart “nerdy” students. See if you can take some advanced Honors classes that would compliment a Video Production major- you’ll find the smart kids in those classes too.</p>
<p>I’m in exactly the same situation (you don’t go to UMD do you?)! I chose my school because I got a full ride and it gave me good opportunities but the overall vibe of the student body doesn’t really fit me. I’ve met a few other quiet people but they’re few and far between. My guess is that for people like us it’s just going to take more time than most other people to find the people we get along with. You’ll have a good chance to meet people who share your interests in your classes, and even if that doesn’t work out there are still clubs! Unless you go to a super small school, there are bound to be nerdy clubs you can join to meet fellow quiet/nerdy people who you’re more likely to make connections with. I know it’s easier said than done (I’ve been here a week and don’t really have friends yet and it’s been really tough) but just give it time. Because you don’t fit in with the majority at your school you won’t have best friends the first day, but within a few weeks of getting used to the school and getting involved you should be able to find people you connect with. Good luck! :)</p>
<p>Just because a person likes to party, doesn’t make them immature.</p>
<p>you have to look for the 1%
its going to be tough
you may never find it. but still at least try</p>
<p>I’m a nerd at a party school too! </p>
<p>Believe it or not, the problem isn’t finding fans of gaming, Futurama, adventure time, Skyrim, Pokemon or Reddit so much as it is finding people who don’t drink. </p>
<p>The nerds <em>are</em> the partiers!</p>
<p>My problem is that I don’t really like drinking so it’s been hard for me. I was thinking about going to church one of these days in hopes that I could find someone who’s both nerdy and dry. I’m not religious but I think it might be a good place to find those sorts of people. Maybe this’ll work for you too?</p>
<p>I understand that not all partiers are immature. I’m just saying that most of the girls who are going out partying tend to be more immature than most nerds. It’s a generalization, an observation, a stereotype if you will. </p>
<p>There is no engineering school within my school, we’re liberal arts so there are practically no science or math majors. I go to SUNY Fredonia, just so you all know.
I’m thinking about joining a few clubs. They’ve got a club night tomorrow night that I’m going to check out and hopefully I’ll sign up for a few then. The clubs that seemed interesting to me were the Psychology club and the Paranormal club. I’m not sure what kinds of people I’ll find in those, so I guess we’ll have to see. I might take a look at one of the volunteering ones since I feel like the people who care about other people might care about me, haha. </p>
<p>I love Futurama, Adventure Time, and Reddit! Ughh, it seems impossible that I’d find people with those same interest though. I’m not a big drinker either so I wouldn’t want to go out with a big group of people who are drinking. I haven’t really found anyone who doesn’t drink though. </p>
<p>I guess I could check out the church, but I am the complete opposite of religious. I usually try to avoid discussing religion whenever possible.</p>
<p>Nerd clubs! Like most colleges, it looks like Fredonia has an anime group, a ballroom dancing group, an improv society, a show choir, a color guard, a Disney fan club, a jujitsu group, a feminist empowerment circle, and a Gamers’ Guild. They may not all be active every semester, but look them up – I PROMISE you will find nerds in those groups. Even if you haven’t done these things before, show up if you find them even a little bit intriguing.</p>
<p>There’s also a wilderness club, which may or may not have a lot of nerds, but will certainly have people for whom partying is not #1.</p>
<p>I just discovered the most amazing club for people who don’t drink or party! Thank you everybody for your kind words of advice. :)</p>
<p>I don’t really think of “anime” or gamers clubs as nerd clubs…more like geek clubs. I’m going to be in the Society of Physics Students as well as Kappa Mu Epsilon (math honors society). I’m sure they’ll be nerding it up. I know it is actually an event to watch Star Trek together. LOL.</p>