<p>I didn’t read all the responses yet but I want to share something with the op. Your parents sound a bit like mine. I felt the same way as the op long time ago.</p>
<p>What I did was, I left home and found a job to support myself through college. I am not suggesting you do the same as it was tremendously hard. My grades suffered a lot as a result of the stress and time working so it may not be worth that price for you. </p>
<p>I am much older now and I am quite comfortable and secure in life. So my story has a happy ending. </p>
<p>After many years of an difficult relationship with my parents I am on good terms with them. I think they are even very proud of me. <em>shrug</em> I recognize my parents are limited but not toxic. I think some time in the future you will find out the same about yours. They may not show their love for you in the right way, criticize and put you down instead of encourage and support you but in their way, by working at their 4 jobs and attaining some measure of financial security they are. I think in their world love = provide and care= control.</p>