<p>I reread the op, honestly I could have written that when I was in college. My dad constantly told me, if I didn’t listen to him he would throw me out , starting when I was … maybe I was 12 ?? </p>
<p>Eventually of course that’s what I did. Then they were so shocked and ashamed to have a daughter that didn’t live with them. They were most ashamed of me in front of the relatives. I brought dishonor upon the family.</p>
<p>I know now, when push come to shove, they (actually it was just my dad who was verbally abusive and said the most hurtful things) were all talk and bluff. Dad constantly threatened to cut me off but have no intention to. I didn’t see it at that time but if I had threatened to drop out, stopped schooling, went off and got a job at McD or whatever and never bothered to go to college he would probably stop the put downs. How did I know ? Because my younger brother was not strong academically and did not complete college, and my parents tried everything they can to bribe him, no expense was spared in his case.</p>