<p>‘that all is what my parents say. Unfortunately, I just don’t understand it. Why do they constantly remind me that I should be grateful that they bother to do all?’</p>
<p>Have you visited Cambodia? It’s one of the poorest countries in the world. There are many people there who have nothing – not shelter, not food, not a hope of a chance of education.</p>
<p>Your parents must have been courageous and lucky to have overcome the odds to have relocated to the U.S. Bad as parts of your life have been (and I agree that beating you until you were bruised was child abuse), more than likely, your upbringing was far more comfortable than what your parents experienced.</p>
<p>You complain about their working 4 jobs, but their strong work ethic is what helped you get a relatively comfortable life compared to what they must have had through most of their lives.</p>
<p>Have you ever expressed admiration and appreciation to them for what they’ve done with their lives, and what kind of opportunities their hard work has allowed you to have? Doing this may help your parents look more kindly on you. Right now, they probably view as spoiled and ungrateful because you’ve had opportunities that they never had at your age, and you’ve been basically handed things by your parents that your parents had to work extremely hard to get, far harder than you’ll more than likely ever have to work.</p>
<p>Incidentally, I, too, am the offspring of an immigrant, so I have empathy for your experience.</p>