I am a walking time-bomb, and I need advice

[munchkin]

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mommusic, I’ve done all of that. I can be quiet, nod, and he’ll go away eventually, but the cycle eventually repeats. My dad is stubborn and persistant. The only listen to me to say, “You are (age) and you think you know every thing.”</p>

<p>My dad does not believe in those statistics. He stated that his experience says better than those data, and, this is according to what he said, 9/10 of people who go to community college and non-top-tiered universities amount to nothing. I told him that there are plenty of people who go to community colleges and transfer to UVA, and you couldn’t tell from the diploma where they spent the first two years. He said it doesn’t matter, and it isn’t true.

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<p>Yap, that was my dad. Close minded and do not listen. </p>

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It may help, however, if you assume that your parents come from a culture in which parent show their love for their children by nagging and criticizing their kids. Apparently, that’s the way some cultures are, so there’s a chance that’s the way kids are raised in Cambodia.

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<p>I agree with NSM. </p>

<p>You can also try saying if you as a last resort and cannot stand his behavior anymore “Dad, you are right. Since you are not going to pay for my tuition I will go get a job at McD/retail establishment now and quit school since I can’t go to school anymore.”</p>

<p>If I am a betting person I will bet this kind of nagging (threatening to stop paying tuition unless you do exactly as he says) will stop. They will find something else to criticize though because it is their way. Observe your youngest brother, the one who gets along with your parents - I am sure your parents criticize him too but does he argue less ? In one ear and out the other ?</p>

<p>I think one advantage of being the youngest kid is that one can learn from the older kids’ mistakes. They learn that sometimes it’s no use to argue and fight but… I notice the younger ones are very adapt at doing what they want regardless. My youngest brother certainly behaved that way. Even my youngest daughter behave that way. </p>

<p>Are you willing to consider getting a job and saving up some money to put yourself through college ?</p>