<p>-My dorm seems very clique-ish and not very open. The guys are not very inviting and the girls do not come over here really.</p>
<p>Actually, they do. Two girls knocked on my (open) door by accident, asked "what are you doing?," and walked away.</p>
<p>-Everyone here parties. I don't like parties even if I don't drink. This is supposedly a "dry campus" yet the 5-6 frat houses literally across the street from my dorm knowingly admit freshmen. </p>
<p>-This seems like a "sports school," not a "nerdy school." I feel generally disconnected from everyone I've seen so far. I don't feel like I fit in very well here.</p>
<p>-My roommate likes to have girls over, makes out with them, and also go out till very late in the morning. I guess that's okay. I suppose I am jealous though.</p>
<p>-There seems to be a lack of things to do aside from partying. </p>
<p>-I have yet to meet ONE SINGLE PERSON here. I've even done nice things like gave ethernet cords to people who forgot to bring them. </p>
<p>I suppose I am naturally a loner -- I am either riding my bike to center city or in the music lab on my off-time. Or here listening to music by myself in my room with my door open but nobody saying anything. </p>
<p>I am sort of miserable here so far. Of course this is just an early feeling and I'm going to tough it out.</p>
<p>Have you had a chance yet to check out any of the campus' clubs and organizations? That's typically the way that students meet their closest friends -- by getting involved in some activities with others who share their interests.</p>
<p>If your college doesn't have a club and activities fair where you can learn about its organizations, check its website and e-mail club officers for info about their organizations and meetings.</p>
<p>Temple University in Philadelphia. I am regretting not choosing Drexel because I instantly would have had something in common with most students (tech background). Also there are way more clubs there I find appealing. I can always go there next year? </p>
<p>My other idea would be a tolerable Jesuit school like Seattle University, where I am less likely to deal with wild party kids. Don't get me wrong, I don't care that people drink or do other insane things, and I don't have any religious pretenses, but it seems like that environment would be more of a fit for my personality. </p>
<p>Northstar, I looked at the online organization list this morning. There is nothing especially appealing although there may be some unofficial groups which are more interesting.</p>
<p>Its not the alcohol especially, it's just that I don't care for parties at all and don't want to be around people who want nothing more than to socialize or party.</p>
<p>edit: maybe i would be happy in a substance-free dorm/floor (not offered here)? But that only takes care of the partying issue, not the general disconnect. Eh.</p>
<p>k so ive been there feeling all alone n stuff but here is the thing. u hafta stop feeling bad for urself and do something about it. be initiative n go into other peoples room . its there u just hafta do some searching instead of waiting for it to come to you</p>
<p>"asked "what are you doing?," and walked away."</p>
<p>haha, they said that cuz.. YOUR IN YOUR ROOM, YOU MANIAC!!!!
what do you expect??!?! girls to just come crawl all over your crotch just sitting in your dorm and complaining??!! if i was you i ask my roommate smack you in a face or punch you in the chest because you need to MAN UP and GET OUT THERE!! thats what i always do. if im with my WINGMAN... and im afraid to talk to a girl, i tell him to HIT ME so i can relax and like they say it in nyc.. GET IT CRACKINNN</p>
<p>can you describe yourself in 2 sentences??</p>
<p>pssh, loners coming this board looking for some needed attention!</p>
<p>im only saying this to help! please dont look at me as a bad person. i feel everyone is able to bring home a girl to the dorm and make out and get straight A's. only cool kids get straight A's and a great social life.</p>
<p>Maybe you just need to relax stop worrying and talk to as many diffrent people as possible. Your going to connect with someone. That someone may have already connected with someone. and you may conenct with both of them. So 1 suddenly becomes 3. 3 Suddenly becomes 5 ect ect. You just need to find the right links</p>
<p>I have lots of friends, hook up with hot girls, etc.</p>
<p>Yet if you look at my posts, I'm an angry, cynical, and just generally miserable person. I might not appear lonely, but I'm generally jealous of my friends who have more than I do-be it a better looking girl, better job prosepects, etc to he point of feeling victimized. My point? We're all humans, and we all deal with the same basic feelings. You're not much different than the kids you see socializing; stop comparing your insides to everyone else's outsides. You don't have a monopoly on suffering...</p>
<p>Also, read How to Win Friends and Influence People by Andrew Carnegie.</p>
<p>What is it that you dont like about parties?</p>
<p>I hear this a lot, and it confuses me. I have friends that dont drink, but still go to parties and socialize and have fun. Giving people CAT5 cables, while nice, isnt really a way of socializing. </p>
<p>Are you just insecure about your social skills? Shy? Dont like big groups? Or perhaps you just dont like the drunk frivolities of parties (which is also fine). Go do a club. If your a techie, join another techie club with people like you in it. Join a club with non-techie people. Just do it. Confidence breeds social skills more than anything.</p>
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<p>I hear this a lot, and it confuses me. I have friends that dont drink, but still go to parties and socialize and have fun. Giving people CAT5 cables, while nice, isnt really a way of socializing.</p>
<p>Are you just insecure about your social skills? Shy? Dont like big groups? Or perhaps you just dont like the drunk frivolities of parties (which is also fine). Go do a club. If your a techie, join another techie club with people like you in it. Join a club with non-techie people. Just do it. Confidence breeds social skills more than anything.
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<p>Some people just don't like socializing. We're loners by nature. It's difficult to put into words and even more difficult for the social people to understand.</p>
<p>To the OP: Keep looking for people. I'm sure there's someone at your school who's similar to you. But truly, I think a lot of your dislikes are coming from your environment. Do you like being a loner? I think a lot of people like being a loner when they're in a comfortable environment to be one. But in a party atmosphere, it's hard not to feel completely isolated. Maybe a switch to another school would be the best choice?</p>
<p>When "everyone" has gone to parties walk around the dorm and see who else is still there ... you will not be the only person left. The people left are likely also more introverted or shy ... and also more likely to be interested in playing cards, going to a movie, splitting a pizze, play ultimate frisbee, or just shooting the breeze on a Friday night than the folks who headed off to the parties.</p>