I can't make friends, and I'm super depressed.

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<p>I've only been at this university since August, and I already want to move somewhere else.</p>

<p>Here's my story.</p>

<p>I'm naturally a reserved, shy girl. Making friends is hard for me, and no matter what I try, I feel as if I'll never make friends in this school. I originally chose this school because when I had visited, it was extremely welcoming and people were super friendly, I also wanted to be able to come out of my "shell". </p>

<p>Fast forward to now.</p>

<p>The school itself is awful, nobody is friendly, it's almost as if they put on an act when we were visiting. I have only met one friendly person in this school. My roommate is great, she's shy like i am, and we're only made one friend, (who is now her boyfriend). </p>

<p>It's just, I dunno. I've tried joining clubs and groups to get to know people, but nobody seems interested in talking to me. I just regret moving here. I haven't had a day where I haven't felt super lonely, and since my roommate has a boyfriend now, it's been even worse, not to say they don't include me in things.</p>

<p>I'm not sure what to do? I changed majors, and I'm transferring next semester, but I'd really like some advice on how to maybe make friends to prepare myself for the next school :/</p>

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<p>I didn’t make any good friends until near the end of first semester of my freshman year. Keep your head up, all it takes is one good friend for you to join their social circle and meet lots more people.
Also, a friendly tip - in college, you’re actually going to have to be aggressive in meeting new people. Its not like high school where you just naturally become friends with people you’re around all the time. Initiate conversation, ask people if they want to hang out or study together, etc. It feels awkward at first but it’ll do the trick. I had to learn the hard way too.</p>

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<p>i’m in a similar situation as you are… i really don’t like my school and am going to transfer next semester.</p>

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<p>Just find the things you love and see if there is a club. Also try to be outgoing in class. Everyone wants to meet a new friend. Sometimes a simple conversation ignites a strong strong friendship. Only transfer if you know you can’t psyche yourself into meeting new people.</p>

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<p>Have you tried talking to someone in the counseling center? I bet they hear this all the time.</p>