<p>IMO this could be a blessing in disguise. 97 times out of 100 someone will recommend you go to UT-Austin instead of UMich if you live in Texas because, while UMich has a slight edge on UT in most undergrad fields, it’s still only a slight one, and most will argue that that small difference is not worth the gratuitously large extra expenditure of attending UMich out of state. This is true especially if you plan on attending grad school afterward. Even if your parents are willing to pay, just because they can afford it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t put financial strain on them that going to UT would prevent.</p>
<p>Your parents having this extra money will help you in the long run because the cash stays in the family. Also, they could have more retirement options which means less weight on your shoulders as their son. Plus, maybe your parents will allow some of the leftover money for you to buy your first car or pay a couple of leases on your first apartment. Just think of the positives. :)</p>
<p>Yeah, I truly feel a lot better today for whatever reason…wasn’t expecting to get over it so fast. Austin is a dynamic city and I’m a pretty outgoing person so I’m sure I’ll like it there. Also for everyone in this thread who seems to think i’m a male, i’m actually a female haha.
I guess one of the main reasons I wanted to go to UMich is because I just love the state of Michigan so much. But it’s not like i can’t visit every once and a while…maybe Labor Day weekend lol.</p>
<p>I’m glad you’re exploring other options and being open minded about UT. Sometimes things like this work out for the best. And I thought you were female but I’m not sure why. You may have mentioned that in another thread.</p>
<p>“Also for everyone in this thread who seems to think i’m a male, i’m actually a female haha.”</p>
<p>That’s really funny. Everyone just assumes (unfortunately myself included) that if someone did something bad, it has to be a guy. A little reverse unconscious sexism there.</p>
<p>So much for playing the “daddy’s little pwincess” card! Oh well, it is still very early. First the OP needs to secure an acceptance from Michigan. If that happens, the old wounds will have healed…at least partially. Perhaps her parents may soften their stance. Let us be honest, she will be faced with similar temptations and will be as prone to being “bad” in Austin or Palo Alto as she will in Ann Arbor.</p>
<p>Yeah that is true. Basically the situation is, there’s somebody who lives in Michigan (not Ann Arbor, not even a student at UMich) that my parents dont want me to interact with or communicate with at all. Personally I think it’s a bit extreme to ban me from going to school there, and unreasonable for them to expect me to “forget about Michigan” so easily…but whatever. I wish some of you guys could talk to them haha</p>
<p>Oh. Well I think we can all guess what happened then, lol, but no assumptions. Anyway, I really feel bad for what has happened to you. I know if it were my parents, they would eventually come around because they know how badly I want to go to UMich. But UT will not be bad, especially since you are from Texas. It’s more or less the same, I suppose. If you still really want to go to Michigan, suck up until it hurts and when you find out your acceptance, talk to your parents and BRING SOMEONE WITH YOU because then they will listen to you and not just lecture/yell at you (at least in my case). GL!</p>
<p>I’ve gotta say, I assumed you (the OP) were a male too. Damn self-sexism…</p>
<p>Just don’t make it a big deal and visibly look interested in UT and other places to show them that you are mature. If they think you’re whining, they won’t come close to caving.</p>
<p>I assumed you were a female up front, but mostly because people seem to make a bigger deal if a girl does something “questionable” than if a guy does. I’m not trying to be a sexist, don’t take it the wrong way, I’m just saying that people tend to react more strongly if the person is a female, and I’m guessing your parents aren’t much different.</p>
<p>Well, that and that you mentioned on one of your Chance Me things that you were a girl, lol. :P</p>
<p>^ I too assumed you were a girl because your parents were so protective of you. Parents will normally allow the son more slack than the daughter, which seems true in your case.</p>
<p>I assume that everyone is a girl until they say they are a guy. But you know what they say about assuming- ‘it makes and ass out of you and me’
but back to the actual topic, you should remind your parents that while being in the same state as the person they don’t want you in contact with will make it easier for you two to meet, you could stillsee that person anyway no matter where you went. The internet and skype and all that jazz can keep people connected from pretty far away. So just assure them that you regret your desicion, it won’t happen again, wait for your acceptance/rejection from Mich and hope.
In the meantime keep looking at different schools where you’ll be happy.
Good luck</p>
<p>Would you be an auto-admit for UT? If not, don’t assume you’ll get in. If you go to the UT board, you’ll see kids with high SAT scores and great ECs who didn’t.</p>
<p>You could offer to live in Martha Cook (beautiful old dorm building, centrally located, has “male visiting hours”) at Michigan. This is assuming, of course, that your friend IS male… Or tell them your “friend” is moving to Texas… Really, if your friend is not a Michigan student, you are going to quickly make new friends there, and the “old friend” probably won’t want to hang around on campus anyway if they are not attending there. Not sure how to convince your parents of this, but you are right… they are being silly. But they are annoyed and they hold the purse strings. Sigh.</p>
<p>yes, I was Auto admit and accepted to the major of my choice back in November for UT. and YES, I completely agree with males being cut more slack lol. The situation at home is really bad right now, I really wish I could get some professional help because I can’t handle it. I can say that Michigan is fully out now, but that’s okay…:/</p>
<p>omg omg omg OP is a girl??? well that explains it… sexism still alive people just concealing it. its sad but its there. i mean my sister has curfew (shes much much older than me) but im allowed to come back at 5am or whatever time suits me…</p>
<p>back to the point.
do ur parents seriously think u wont meet people like that ‘friend’ in UT?? dont tell them that tho - they might just ban u from texas as well. and that should be a bigger problem. </p>
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yeah its bit 2 extreme. approaching westboro baptist church territory…</p>
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hell if i knew u i could prolly pay ur tuition fees. then all this wouldnt even matter that much.</p>
<p>PS-why in the world did u tell ur parents what u did with ‘whoever’</p>
<p>lol I didn’t tell them! it’s something that happened almost 8 months ago over the summer…they found out because tey went snooping through my computer when I was at school. they have never done that kind of thing before</p>
Oh well, it is still very early. First the OP needs to secure an acceptance from Michigan. If that happens, the old wounds will have healed…at least partially. Perhaps her parents may soften their stance. Let us be honest, she will be faced with similar temptations and will be as prone to being “bad” in Austin or Palo Alto as she will in Ann Arbor.</p>
This is assuming, of course, that your friend IS male… Or tell them your “friend” is moving to Texas… Really, if your friend is not a Michigan student, you are going to quickly make new friends there, and the “old friend” probably won’t want to hang around on campus anyway if they are not attending there. Not sure how to convince your parents of this, but you are right… they are being silly. But they are annoyed and they hold the purse strings. Sigh.</p>