I dont get it

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<p>A girl friend of mine told a guy friend of mine she wasn't interested in him even though she was. She said she was testing him to see if he really liked her. She said if he did he'd still want her even though she said she wasn't interested.</p>

<p>What I don't get is why some girls think they have to test us (by "us" I mean us guys).</p>

<p>If a girl tells me she's not interested then I'll be looking elsewhere. And for the girl friend of mine, wouldn't it mean she's not really interested if she feels teh need to test him?</p>

<p>Test him for what? His attraction for her? He was probably killing himself over how to ask her and she decides to make him feel pathetic just to "test" him?</p>

<p>It's high school for F*** sakes. It is very unlikely you'll find the person you'll marry now.</p>

<p>Another thing. Why do some girls have this need to not say anything when something is wrong? Then end up dumping you because you didn't know?</p>

<p>"You should have known me well enough to know it" I thought it was the dumbest thing she ever said to me. What happened to good ol communication? I don't have telepathy.</p>

<p>I dont get it</p>

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What I don't get is why some girls think they have to test us

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Because they are girls.</p>

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<p>Don't expect rationale and reason behind girls' decisions. Don't expect to find rationale and reason in anyone, really, but especially in girls.</p>

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<p>And we never will... :(</p>

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Because they are girls.

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Don't expect rationale and reason behind girls' decisions.

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<p>I couldn't have said it better myself.</p>

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<p>i dont understand the whole testing him
i know some girls are shy and they wont admit they have feelings right away, but she's not doing it for that reason, and should know better what rejection will do to a guy, she was being kind of cruel playing with him like that
but i can see how she could have this 'romantic' idea of him liking her so much that he would pursue her even though she doesn't like him but that is kind of junior high-ish</p>

<p>but dont get too mad at her. i made that mistake once. this guy liked me and i liked him and when his friends told me and he was waiting for my answer i said ew i dont like him because all my friends were around me and i was really embarassed and kind of panicked. but that was in elementary school. still, sometimes people make stupid mistakes like that. i felt really guilty about it so i apologized to him so dont hate me too much...</p>

<p>and for the other question
it is wrong to expect a guy to know what is bothering you if you give no hints at all, but maybe the guy just has a hard time picking up on her feelings and she's tired of it, like having to tell him straight out all of her emotions? she wants a guy who can read her better. and maybe the reason they're dumping you is because they just dont like you anymore. i mean why stay with someone who you dont have much in common with. maybe she's just not attracted to you and then you blame it on girls and their 'irrational' feelings so your ego feels better
also another problem is maybe they have a hard time talking about their feelings and feel uncomfortable bringing them up?</p>

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<p>hey if you guys hate girls so much why do you still want to date them? i mean you put them but dont you agree that guys will also act irrationally a lot of the times? you're like making a huge unfair generalization. thats like women saying 'men are pigs!!!' its so stupid.</p>

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<p>Hmm... I'm a girl, too, and I just think that that sounds completely stupid. I'm pretty sure that it's the GIRL, not girls in general...</p>

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<p>rofl....you just don't want to admit it....</p>

<p>(we date girls because we are born that way. )</p>

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<p>Not saying we hate girls at all. Just pointing out what they're like. I know I've got my flaws too, though being irrational is not one of them. Also, girls' thought process is much harder to understand than guys. It's true!</p>

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<p>a lot of girls are immature. She's an idiot for doing what she did, but she wants to play hard to get... and she sucks at it haha
Guys dont have too much patience for "testing"
you'll probably find girls a little easier to handle when you're older... just a little...</p>

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<p>women are irrational, and men are pigs...
what's so hard to get about that?</p>

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Hmm... I'm a girl, too, and I just think that that sounds completely stupid. I'm pretty sure that it's the GIRL, not girls in general...

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<p>Agreed. =).</p>

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<p>ad.bc: "hey if you guys hate girls so much why do you still want to date them? i mean you put them but dont you agree that guys will also act irrationally a lot of the times? you're like making a huge unfair generalization. thats like women saying 'men are pigs!!!' its so stupid."</p>

<p>"What I don't get is why some girls think..."</p>

<p>I never generalized.</p>

<p>"it is wrong to expect a guy to know what is bothering you if you give no hints at all, but maybe the guy just has a hard time picking up on her feelings and she's tired of it, like having to tell him straight out all of her emotions? she wants a guy who can read her better."</p>

<p>She isn't friends with a lot of her childhood friends this year all of a sudden. All her friends told me that she keeps things to herself and never talks about it. She doesn't hang out with her ex-best friend anymore because she thought they were different. She left it at that and ignored her for the rest of the year.</p>

<p>"and maybe the reason they're dumping you is because they just dont like you anymore."</p>

<p>True. but this relationship was like for half a month. Not even. And I spent most of the time at home because I had my wisdom teeth removed and I was in a accident. </p>

<p>" i mean why stay with someone who you dont have much in common with. maybe she's just not attracted to you and then you blame it on girls and their 'irrational' feelings so your ego feels better"</p>

<p>I'm not blaming anyone. I just want to know why some girls do things the way they do.</p>

<p>"also another problem is maybe they have a hard time talking about their feelings and feel uncomfortable bringing them up?"</p>

<p>True and that's pretty much anyone.</p>

<p>"Hmm... I'm a girl, too, and I just think that that sounds completely stupid. I'm pretty sure that it's the GIRL, not girls in general..."</p>

<p>LOL agree.</p>

<p>BTW how do you do the quote thing?</p>

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<p>there are no such things as girls.</p>

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<p>lol @ tomatoking</p>

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<p>Lol I think this list should be made sticky.</p>

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<p>what's a sticky?</p>

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<p>Only 1% of the high school relationship will become lasting couples. Nuff said lol.</p>

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<p>hm. she sounds like a *****
not all girls play games
well most do....</p>

<p>hey, to be fair, guys are just as hard to read</p>