<p>She's a fellow classmate, but she's QUITE disrespectful. So far, she has managed to insult me on the way I walk, the way I sing, the way I give a speech, my hair, my eating habits, the way I chew, the way I scratched my eye that one time, how I write my essays, my British accent, etc etc. She's getting on my last nerve, because all she ever says when she sees me is, "You're bad at <strong><em>. You're can't _</em></strong>". </p>
<p>I try to be as nice to her as possible - giving her advice, comforting her, smiling at her whenever I see her, etc, because I believe in killing enemies with kindness, and not stooping to her level, and all of that. </p>
<p>It's not even like I ever insulted her, or anything. She just started the first time she layed eyes on me. Plus, to make it even worse, with every flaw of mine that she points out, she accentuates a redeeming quality of her own.</p>
<p>But lately she's been becoming much more... physical. She's started punching, and kicking, and pinching me at random moments, and she even told me she hates me. So it's been getting harder and harder to remain calm and nice... </p>
<p>Just wondering, how should I deal with her? In a mature way, that is?</p>
<p>Honestly this girl is hurting you emotionally and physically on purpose. Sometimes acting nice to someone doing stuff like that to you can make them think you’re weak which, I’m sure you know, bullies thrive upon. You’re obviously not weak because you’re strong enough to take that kind of thing and not even think she is bullying you but nonetheless, it has to stop. Stay away from her, stop acting nice and call her out if she says something you don’t like. If she can get away with treating you like that, she’ll think she can do it to other people so think of it like this… you’re not just standing up for yourself, you’re standing up for people weaker than you that she might decide to give this treatment if she doesn’t get a wake up call.</p>
<p>I would also consider getting a teacher involved.</p>
<p>@Simpson Lisa: Maybe you’re right… Especially since she doesn’t seem to be doing this kind of thing to anyone else.</p>
<p>I’m considering taking your advice, but does this mean I’ll be doing the same thing to HER? As in, bullying her when she’s bullying me?</p>
<p>Oh, I don’t consider myself weak at all. You may call it conceited, but I don’t think just everyone would be able to remain nice even after all she’s done…</p>
<p>^No, that’s not bullying, it’s defending yourself. But I do think you should get a teacher’s help. Her actions are inexcusable.</p>
<p>@YaleGirll</p>
<p>No, it wouldn’t be bullying. Try your best to avoid anything you would consider bullying. You’re basically telling her you won’t tolerate her treating you like that but don’t stoop to being as low as her and going out of your way to insult/hurt her. Don’t let her get to you that much. 
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<p>If it’s self-defence, it is not bullying but like I said, try to avoid that situation entirely. You basically want to be saying things like “don’t speak to me like that” or “don’t touch me”, not throwing insults back at her because honestly, is she worth it? </p>
<p>You definately are a strong person to put up with that, and you’re not being conceited. My temper would have got the better of me long before now. </p>
<p>You have to bear in mind that if things escalate and it comes to a teacher’s attention, they will ask why you didn’t tell one of them. If you want to try to sort it out yourself first, remember that if it doesn’t work and it carries on, getting a teacher involved may be the best option. </p>
<p>I hope you get this resolved soon.</p>
<p>She’s a bully, you need to bring this to the Attention of someone higher up and if nothing gets done then go up the chain.</p>
<p>Ignore the verbal, but physical attack is stepping over a bright red line. If she were an adult, it would be assault. In a workplace, it is an immediate firing offense. If it happening inside school, notify the school. They have an obligation to maintain student safety and your confidentiality. Start with a trusted teacher, GC, administrator, school nurse/health aid (especially if there are marks from the attacks). Make sure your parents know what is going on. Keep a written log of incidents (verbal & physical). Record if anyone else was present and observed it. Up to you if you want to give her ONE verbal warning to stop all verbal and physical harrasment now. Stop trying to make it better; politely ignoring her is the course I would recommend.
Possibility she has medical issues that are not being addressed. Not your problem, and if bringing it to attention of people in authority gets her help, you’ve done her good (not that she or others may realize it at the time).</p>
<p>As for the verbal stuff: haters gonna hate, and they’ll feel more defeated if they don’t get any response outside of not caring.</p>
<p>she’s probably gay lol</p>
<p>There was this girl I didn’t get either. She ended up dating some dumb jock. :/</p>