<p>As requested, I'm starting a new thread about this subject. The following is from an earlier response to the somewhat elusive question of "fit." Hope this is helpful, especially to those just starting to explore the idea of boarding school.</p>
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I don't know how 'fit' works, really. How exactly do you decide whether a school is a good 'fit' for you or not based solely on one visit?
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<p>I think it takes a lot of introspection and research. Instead of starting with the schools, I think it makes the most sense to start with your child's needs/wishes, and your family's values. Some questions to discuss with your child might include:</p>
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<li>Does your child need rigorous academics to be challenged? How are your child's grades and test scores?</li>
<li>Is there a specific academic area that your child is strong or weak in? Do you want to go "broad" or "deep" in your child's areas of strength?</li>
<li>What sports is your child currently playing, or interested in taking up? Does your child want to pursue "alternative" forms of physical activity (dance, equestrian, hiking, climbing, fitness classes, etc)</li>
<li>What activities/clubs is your child currently participating in, or is interested in pursuing in high school?</li>
<li>Does your child have an aptitude or interest in the arts (drama, music, visual arts, dance, etc)? </li>
<li>Is there a specific language your child would like to study?</li>
<li>Does your child thrive under intense competition (a "racehorse") or does he perform better in a more balanced environment?</li>
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<p>Then, ask yourself some questions about your family's values and situation:
- How important is diversity - ethnic, religious, socio-economic, geographic region, international?
- What geographic limitations do you have (day school, less than a 2 hour drive, within the region, across the country/world)?
- Is boarding school an "end in itself" (primarily pursuing boarding school because of the intrinsic value of that type of education), or is it a "stepping stone" (focus on matriculation to selective colleges)?
- what type of culture would be the most comfortable fit for your child (focus on academic accomplishment, focus on sports accomplishment, focus on arts accomplishment, a culture with a balance)?
- How much can you afford to contribute toward your child's education?</p>
<p>These are just some sample questions - I think you get the idea of where I'm going with this. There are many more factors you could include: single-sex versus co-ed school; school size: small (less than 250) - medium (250-700), large (700 and up); rural or urban setting; etc.</p>
<p>Once you have an idea of the needs of your child and your family, then you can start to research schools, and see which ones meet your requirements.</p>
<p>Many, many hours of looking at school websites (and reading forums like this one) can help you come up with schools to visit that (on paper, at least!) seem to provide a good fit. The visit sometimes confirms the fit, but often times, your child just doesn't "feel" right at that school. </p>
<p>Yes - it's a lot of work. But I believe it pays off with a list of schools to consider that has been shaped by "real" criteria, instead of just relying on common perceptions of "prestige" or "name-recognition."</p>