I don’t think you’ve addressed the finances part but Whitman is an excellent college in Washington.
Never mind, wrong thread. 
Whitman also has great geology and biology departments and is quite liberal. If you’re looking for merit aid then I’d recommend a visit!
I second the advice to check out Whitman as a sort-of safety for you. Sciences are strong, and there would be opportunities for you to continue with your music without being a music major. Well-qualified males, in particular, often receive good merit and aid packages at liberal arts colleges. And I wouldn’t be at all surprised to learn that you have some past classmates attending Whitman now who would be happy to show you around.
@KnearSeattle I think I know who you are hahaha! Thanks for your insight!