I don't tell people where I'm applying to

<p>I only tell people my safeties. I believe I am a fairly smart girl, but I do not feel comfortable telling people my top colleges. I guess its a confidence issue. For example, I am applying to Stanford and some Ivies and I have the stats but when applying to top-tier schools, you never know if you can get it. I am just afraid that if I tell my classmates and get rejected. My school is extremely gossipy and I just don't want to be a target come April. But I guess what I'm asking you CCers is do you tell your peers what top, competitive schools you are applying to?</p>

<p>Some yes, some no. I'm intersted but just for conversation and good wishes. I also don't much care about gossip. They're evil enough to me as is, I'll do what I'll do and they the same.</p>

<p>When I feel uncomfortable, I say Chicago(honestly one of my top choices,) as it is at one time an obvious fit for me, and at another not so well known in the North East so it doesn't elicit that almost anti or pro-elite or competitive(depending on the person) response.</p>

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<p>I tell. People shouldn't ridicule you based on acceptances or whatnot. You seem like a very intelligent girl who shouldn't have any worries about getting accepted or not; you'll be fine regardless. I have one friend who is very secretive about where he is applying and I personally find it annoying simply because we have been friends for so long. I completely understand not sharing your schools with people you are not very friendly with, however.</p>

<p>I just prefer not to specify the schools I want to apply to. Answering "schools in the East" sometimes help me get away with the topic.</p>

<p>I try to avoid the subject with people I don't know very well. I'm applying to nine schools (gasp!), none of them in Texas (GASP!), and most people have only heard of one of them (Northwestern).</p>

<p>So when random adults ask me where I'm applying, they're expecting to hear UT Austin, Stanford, blah blah. Then I spout out how I really want to attend Olin College or Harvey Mudd, and I get weird looks, and they don't have the typical response, "Cornell! I hear that's a GREAT school!" and they have nothing to say, and then there's this awkward moment where they're like, "Oh..."</p>

<p>Yeah, my school is extremely gossipy too. </p>

<p>ohnocollegeapps, I identify with your situation. I'm applying to some California colleges that are relatively unheard of, such as Loyola Marymount and Chapman U, and so people always respond with:</p>

<p>"Wait...what's that?"
"Loyola what?"
"What does LMU stand for?"
"Wait..where are they?"
"Oh..."
"I've never heard of them"</p>

<p>-_-. ERGO, I just tell people I'm applying to the UC's. It's vague enough so that I'm not giving everything away, yet it's specific enough so that they won't keep asking me.</p>

<p>There's nothing wrong with that. I don't plan on telling anyone where I'm applying. Only a couple of my friends even know my pipe dream school, and they've never even heard of it. </p>

<p>I'm like ohnocollegeapps. People here expect to hear "Oh, UT(enn) and MTSU and Vanderbilt(but only if you get good grades). So I don't say anything.</p>

<p>LOL--around here, and in our families, no one had ever heard of Williams. When D was accepted, she was thrilled to have been selected (and got one of their "early" notification of RD apps). Too bad, not too many people could appreciate that she'd gotten in. She decided to go a different path, but was still proud that she'd been accepted there.</p>

<p>I see nothing wrong with your approach, Dolce, as someone who went through that process and got tired of all the useless chatter about it. And if you do or don't get into a top school, I'd keep the same low profile about it.</p>

<p>Hey, if you get into all your choices and you want to really celebrate it, do what the Beatles did when they realized they were on the way to becoming huge megarockstars: apparently they went into a room together and closed a door and spent hours jumping up and down and screaming together -- and they came out and no one was any the wiser.</p>

<p>i tell only some people
honestly i dont care whetehr people know which schools im applying to</p>

<p>Same, I guess it's a self-confidence issue. I don't feel comfortable telling people.</p>

<p>I don't really talk to my friends about where I'm applying to college. They're going to a local community college <em>not that there's anything wrong with that</em> but I'm applying to the UC's. They know I'm applying there, but it's just that we have different goals in "the college department", so I don't bring it up.</p>

<p>I don't mind telling people. I've told one or two people and word got around the block that I was applying to Ivies -- most people are just impressed or in awe, at least to my face. I could care less what they say behind my back if they even say anything.</p>

<p>Don't tell, unless you want people to be impressed, or whatever. If someone asks you where you're applying, instead of being like, "I'm applying to Dartmouth!" be like, "(Safety), (Safe-Match), and a couple others out east. You?"</p>

<p>im a junior, but keeping the cards close to the chest. its not really other people's business anyway -- im planning on applying to small top tier liberal arts colleges and i dont want other suburban nj white females to put them on their radar because i happen to mention them... ill say chicago and probably cornell/upenn which is really all most grown ups want to hear anyway.</p>

<p>There's a couple people I'm comfortable going through the entire college search process with, but to most people, I just respond with names of safety and safe-match schools, or just plain-- I don't know yet.</p>

<p>^ I don't know yet.</p>

<p>That's a good idea.</p>

<p>yep, thats what i say right now. but when it's jan 1, that can't be the excuse any longer...</p>

<p>I wasn't going to tell people that I applied to my first choice school early decision, but it slipped out. So now everybody will know when I get rejected, or will at least ask about it.</p>

<p>Yay for my big mouth.</p>