I feel bad.

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<p>So on my mom's side of the family, I have these wayward cousins who are constantly getting themselves in trouble and hence, always in need of some type of help (ie bail when one was arrested for a DUI, the other for burglary). Their family is completely dysfunctional and have recently been leaning on my family more than ever. As much as my mom loves her younger sister (my aunt) and is truly concerned about my cousins' affairs, the total dependency they have on us is straining relations within my own family as most everyone is very stressed at the moment with their own personal problems. </p>

<p>Anyways, just a few minutes ago my one of my cousins called asking for money to help bail his girlfriend out of jail. My mom, being the person that she is, immediately calls me forth to look up legal advice and talk to the authorities at the jail where the girlfriend is currently be held. I admit I was more than a little annoyed at the prospect of spending five hours sorting all this out for my cousin's girlfriend (who I don't even know) and unwittingly snapped a loud criticism of his family when he was still on the phone. I have no doubt that he heard and that he was deeply hurt by my comment as he hung up about two seconds later. </p>

<p>I know I was rude and now I feel really bad. I don't know whether or not I should call him and apologize...anyone have any advice? ugh, I feel really crummy right now.</p>

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<p>Don't feel bad for speaking the truth. It's about time some one said what everyone was probably thinking. Your cousin should be taught a lesson.</p>

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<p>Ugh . . . family problems. I hate it.
I don't know, this is ultimately your family, who will be there if you have a problem in the future. If your own mother will spend time to help them, then she obviously cares, and you not caring is kind of rude to her too. It takes 2 minutes to apologize, and it will make him feel a lot better probably, just pick up the phone and call and apologize. They might learn to have more of a strained/cold feeling toward you, which is not what you want . . . </p>

<p>good luck. :(</p>

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<p>IVe got big family problems my dads like the sucess story in the family paid his way thru undergrad anD grad school and half his family is in bad shape...And my mom didnt go to college till now but my dad makes enough(its a very sucessfull company he owns) to support us all and her Familys pretty bad off to we dont have to constantly bail them out but we give them tons of money over the years god! WE Pay for my aunts rent!</p>