<p>So, as many of you may know from my posts, I've been very active in my school yearbook for the last two years (junior now) and have completed about 40 pages by myself, and assisted on countless more. I've barely missed 8 days (mon-thursday 3-5 afterschool) between the two years. Anyway, just proving I'm very enthusiastic and hard-working. </p>
<p>I was excited about this year, so I asked the current editor-in-chief when/how I could help, we usually start in November, but I'm hoping to be editor-in-chief (there's only about 8 members-and I'm the only member since freshman year of my grade, so this is logical) and would like to "learn the ropes", etc. She replied back on Monday that she'd tell me when we'd get started.</p>
<p>Then, I checked facebook today, and this girl, who had literally done nothing and had only stayed after to get a ride from her sister who was editor-in-chief last year and has DONE ZERO PAGES OR ANY WORK!, writes basically that they had a secret meeting of all the people who've been in yearbook, which is bad enough. As well, she saw the cover of the yearbook-which is supposed to be only for senior editors (not juniors!!) if not just editor-in-chiefs. </p>
<p>I feel like they all banded against me. I've considered these girls my closest friends! I'm not even being paranoid...it is pretty obvious that they made the meeting just to exclude me, and I'm really hurt. I just started crying when I read the stuff about the meeting. Even the moderator, who I'm pretty close to & is my homeroom teacher, did not tell me about this meeting!!!</p>
<p>Now what? My mom is debating calling the assistant moderator and forcing them to let me in. To be honest, I don't even know if I want to work for such horrible people! I don't want to quit it though, as I do really enjoy the work and it's one of my main EC's. What do you suggest? </p>
<p>Thank you for reading. I just really need your help, and I feel so alone right now.</p>
<p>First of all, don't cry. If they did do it on purpose, then they knew you would cry, so don't give them the satisfaction of hurting you. Instead, get even. Get even with that girl. But REAL even. Plan something out. Quietly, secretly. And when you've got back at her good, forget about it cause she's not worth your time.</p>
<p>You certainly have reason to be upset. It sounds like at least a few of the people in this "club" have excluded you, but don't know all the facts. Maybe its not as bad as it seems.</p>
<p>I suggest talking directly (not through your mom) to the moderator of the yearbook, as you say you are close with her. Maybe she isn't aware of the meeting, or she may not know that you didn't know about it in advance, and just thought you couldn't show up. One of the other girls may have said something that made others think that you had been told, but just couldn't make it. Maybe the moderator wasn't even there.
There are some possibilities that may not involve as many people as you are imagining. Get the facts first from the adults involved.
It's hard for me to believe that an adult would allow a "secret meeting" that deliberately shut out one member. Does that seem reasonable to you?
Once you know what happened, first hand, then you can make your decisions about staying or leaving.</p>
<p>I also would definitely ask mom to let you handle this. She loves you and wants to help, but I think you will do better, both in how you appear and in how you feel about yourself afterward, if you do this yourself.</p>
<p>I agree. It's hard to assume that everyone has banded against you. Everything asap said is pretty likely. If they did band against you, I would reconsider being in this club or see if you can somehow work independantly on the yearbook.</p>
<p>I can't offer any more advice than what's already been said, but I think you should post how this all turns out when it happens. I'm curious as to what's really going on here.</p>
<p>aww that really stinks. you do definetly have a reason to be upset. but i wouldn't stress too much about it. those girls don't even deserve your time.</p>
<p>I've had similar crises too; not social ones, but ones in which I spend days fuming over something. It takes me quite a while to put things into perspective and assume good faith. However, it seems it you cases that good faith can't be assumed. Just double check. This could just be a mistake, or a bunch of people could just be pawns in somebody else's plan (which, in reality, isn't as scary as all these people ganging up on you).</p>
<p>well, tomorrow, I'm going to speak with the advisor and ask what the deal is. I'll go from there, I guess.</p>
<p>Also, I think you're right, proletariat, that it's probably the one girl and the rest are pawns. Now that I've had a little time to think, it might be that she told everyone I couldn't come. Still, how am I going to deal with her if she is so against me?!? </p>
<p>Thanks for the advice, I'll keep you guys up to date.</p>
<p>So I asked the adviser-said that thursday is the meeting for everybody, but wouldn't say anything else. So, I don't know whether more people were involved...it seems at least the adviser wasn't, which I'm glad. Thanks for keeping me sane, CC.</p>
<p>Sadly, I have another update...so, the meeting was canceled (unrelated) but anyway, I went to ask the advisor again when the meeting was (on thursday) and he just looked me in the eyes and then wouldn't say anything. I was literally within a foot of him and it was obvious that I was talking to HIM, so it's not really a possibility that he didn't hear me. He didn't even have any papers he could have been looking at! </p>
<p>Then, on Friday, he asked to be at a school event as a representative for yearbook (5 hours of fun...! basically the gruntest grunt work)...which I would have been happy to do (and had done the last year), but this was the DAY BEFORE (even though every other club asked for volunteers in september!) and he also NEVER asked me before! Since I don't really mind going, I decided to volunteer for another club that Weds (2 days before..!) because if they hadn't asked, they didn't need me. </p>
<p>I don't have a meeting until Tuesday...I don't know what to do! I don't even know why the advisor is so CRAZY! I was going to ask him for a rec!</p>
<p>You should've asked the advisor your question a second time. Sometimes I just completely space out and stare into nothingness which deep in thought about some random topic, and I don't hear stuff unless it's said repeatedly. Then again, the topic I'm thinking about has to be sufficiently interesting, which is rare.</p>
<p>Ya, except instead I would grind ALL the school photos into confetti, throw him a surprise birthday party and shower the confetti all over him. That would be classic and thematic. :)</p>