<p>I feel so stupid/depressed :\ We started fraternity rush a few weeks ago and for one of the ones I really liked they are having a date thing. I really wanted to go with this one girl who I liked, and I'm really shy, but I worked up the courage to ask her and it turns out she is going to it with someone else :\ I just feel so stupid, because finally I get the balls to approach a girl I like. To make matters worse it is probably too late to get a date (the thing is on sunday) and now I doubt I'll get in the fraternity. This probably sounds stupid to post this, but writing it out makes me feel better.</p>
<p>it's okay. :( can't you ask one of your friends to go with you as a favor</p>
<p>at least you tried.</p>
<p>it's really good that you tried. and it should make it easier for the next times.</p>
<p>Be like me. Don't give girls the satisfaction of you talking to them. I don't get involved with girls on that level. They can kiss it.</p>
<p>uhhh... how are you supposed to get anywhere if you don't talk to girls?</p>
<p>What is your definition of "get anywhere"?</p>
<p>Do you mean get laid, get a job, have a successful life? If you aren't out to get your pencil wet, you can get more accomplished.</p>
<p>The event you described sounds like a "date dash," which is actually a fairly common Greek event (at many schools, you get 24 hours to find a date--hence the "dash" for anyone without a steady bf/gf!) One good strategy that I've found to deal with this sort of thing is to just ask a friend to go with you--you'll stress less and have more fun, and you won't need to worry about juggling both talking to the active members (I mean... it's still rush, so this is important!) AND trying to focus on impressing your date. Sunday is still two days away--you've got twice the time that many Greeks get to persuade a friend to come with you! Don't feel so dejected, and go out there and enjoy yourself =) Best of luck!</p>
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I feel so stupid/depressed :\ We started fraternity rush a few weeks ago and for one of the ones I really liked they are having a date thing. I really wanted to go with this one girl who I liked, and I'm really shy, but I worked up the courage to ask her and it turns out she is going to it with someone else :\ I just feel so stupid, because finally I get the balls to approach a girl I like. To make matters worse it is probably too late to get a date (the thing is on sunday) and now I doubt I'll get in the fraternity. This probably sounds stupid to post this, but writing it out makes me feel better.
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<p>I really do sympathize with you on this one, but aren't you pessimistic? Go find a date, if you really want to get in. Like, right now. Go out. And ask someone. TINSTFL. Remember that by heart, you want to be cool enough to be in a frat, get the balls to do anything; so go out, ask anyone you think is mildly attractive.</p>
<p>I must praise you for getting the balls to ask a girl out.
Since you have done it one time, you can do it two times, perhaps three if necessary.
Ask a girl you've spoken to before, but tell her that it won't be a serious "date" you'll only go as friends. Puts the pressure of both you and her. Since you'll approach her as a friend and she won't be in an awkward situation.</p>
<p>I take it this event takes place in the evening, then you'll have today and tomorrow to get a date.
And let's draw the worst scenario, you don't get a date nor do you get into the fraternity. **** happens, atleast you learned how to bring forward the courage to ask a girl out. And thats more than a lot of guys on this forum (atleast) can say.</p>
<p>That's totally right, dude. You had the balls to ask someone out which obviously took something from you because of your shyness. I experienced the SAME thing last Friday and am embroiled in the midst of an saga detailed in my thread a few down from yours.</p>
<p>Just take the advice of some of the people on my thread: Just ask people out. You have nothing to lose now because the girl you wanted to ask out is already taken. So just go up and ask people. Worst they can say is no and the person you ideally wanted already said that. Best they can say is yes and they could turn out better than the original girl.</p>
<p>Agreed DeluxeHarballer, to the TC, why not focus on academics and having regular friends that you can depend on in college? Not everyone in college is dating, although sometimes it seems that way. By not dating in college, you avoid a WHOLE lot of problems, and miss out on very little IMO.</p>
<p>Don't feel stupid, but be glad that she didn't say yes and that you got stuck paying for her food, or that you feel hurt when, after 2 weeks of dating (which seem like the best two weeks of your life but are just 2 average weeks with yet another guy for her), you're not "exciting" enough for her and she kicks you to the curb.</p>
<p>^ wow, much of a pessimist?</p>
<p>Anyway, nice job asking her at least. I know how you feel. But if I were you, I wouldn't give up on her so quickly. Just because another guy got to her first for this date thing doesn't mean she'll actually start dating him. Find something you're both interested in and ask her to go with you (maybe you both like the same band that's coming to town?) Good luck, and remember, asking the 1st time is the hardest.</p>
<p>i asked this girl out last semester. man, i was rejected like a mofo. had an emotional breakdown. my fraternity brothers calmed me down eventually.</p>
<p>it sucked.</p>
<p>but, you know, you just gotta say "**** her", and go on.</p>
<p>Poor you.</p>
<p>Life, is like that. It gives you nasty, annoying problems. But the good news is that if you keep your chin up, get up, and try again, you'll eventually succeed.</p>
<p>Don't let this get you down, bro. Move on, and nail the next hot chick. Speaking colloquially, of course.</p>
<p>Dude, you don't need a fraternity to get girls. What makes you think that the masculinity of being in a frat is the sole basis for getting girls? I think can find girls in other house parties and stuff. Plus, it's judgmental for a frat to not accept you just because you don't get girls. Seriously, don't join.</p>
<p>just write more sad post and maybe a girl will feel bad for you and will let you hook up with her.</p>
<p>^Hit it on the head right there...the key to being successful in the dating realm is realise it's a numbers game...learn to deal with rejection and be a man. You'll get a whole lot more girls that way than feeling sorry for yourself.</p>
<p>word......</p>
<p>Women/girls/sluts/*****es. The root of all evil.</p>