<p>No, more like a realist and an optimist to boot, see?</p>
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<p>And besides, from your post, you appear to agree with me:</p>
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Just because another guy got to her first for this date thing doesn't mean she'll actually start dating him.
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<p>So how will that other guy feel? What if the TC had been that 'other guy' and then she dumps him for somebody else? Hmm?</p>
<p>I said it once and I'll say it again -- focus on academics and making friends that you can depend on in college -- forget dating, its just not worth it.</p>
<p>Come on, it's good that you asked her! You shouldn't feel bad about yourself for trying and not getting the response you were hoping for...nobody gets the person they're interested in every time. You've just got to take it as it is and find a friend or another girl you think is cute to go with. </p>
<p>It's good to blow off some steam every now and then, but now that it's out of your system, get back on the horse and try again. I hope everything goes well for you :)</p>
<p>I find harballer's point interesting, but like watung said, it is a number's game and you have to know your limitations(i.e. what types of girls will be willing to date you). So, if you genuinely want to get a date, go to a bar and start asking women out. If you are having a hard time or lack the confidence, go with the average looking girl first or the shy ones. If you are feeling pressured to date someone to fit in, listen to what vail or baller have to say.</p>
<p>Like katho mentioned, you can't take every rejection in life personally and let it destroy your self steem. Accept it as normal event and move on. The point is, if can't seem to get certain girls, you will have to lower your standards, for you can't really change your own personality or make them like you more.</p>