<p>I also agree that he’s entitled to his privacy, but I don’t think that it is appropriate to come on the boards and ask for so much help & support along the way and then turn around and be secretive about the choice in the end… especially when the financial aid aspects were such a strong factor. He’s asked for help but he doesn’t want to give back information - like which school was generous with financial aid to an upper middle class family. I’d also note that his d. was looking at large universities – it is not like a small LAC where it is very easy to identify a student. (For example, I don’t think it would be hard for anyone to figure out who the full-ride student from Texas with the named scholarship from Texas is… there can’t possibly be two). </p>
<p>The point isn’t that any parent should disclose personal info; its that a person who asks for help should give back pertinent info, because the next person coming down the line might want to know whether it was Stanford that proved most generous with financial aid, or whether the family was successful in negotiating aid with Duke after Stanford’s offer (and it was down to Stanford vs. Duke the last time he asked for our help – then again, if it turned out that Wash U came through with aid $$ or that there is some special program at OSU that can entice someone to turn down offers from elites… that, too, is knowledge that might be useful to someone considering similar schools).</p>