So I’m attending UCI. I’m currently on my second quarter. I did really good my first quarter. Except for the fact that I was homesick the entire quarter and after winter break, I’m still stuck in the same situation. I really feel like I came here for the wrong reasons. I was having family problems back home and I moved out of my house before coming here. I’ve been depending on my boyfriend. We have a great relationship and that’s the reason why I miss home a lot. But I decided to come here because I didn’t have anywhere else to live. But now I hate not being home. I’ve gone home (my boyfriends home) every weekend since I’ve been here and it’s the only place I want to be. I cry everyday. I’m not really social but, I’m making friends, like people like me and all, but I just don’t feel like I belong here at all and I don’t feel happy with it. I’m just kind of shy and anti-social in general. I just feel like I’m making myself miserable every night by being here. I’m not happy here. This isn’t for me even though I make my boyfriend pick me up every Friday. I know I should be looking forward to going home every weekend, but it’s not doing it for me. I still cry every single night. I just want to transfer to a college closer to home. I feel alone, sick, weary, depressed, anxious… the list could go on. I need to go back.
So finish up the semester and transfer to a school close to your home.
You learned something about yourself. Keep working hard on your courses for the second semester so that you have good transfer grades. Start the transfer process and go to school closer to home. Good luck.
Most colleges offer some type of supportive counseling (as opposed to academic advising). I suggest you look into it. They can help you navigate the waters, whether you stay there, drop out, transfer, whatever. If your college has a medical clinic you could ask them, or inquire at the Dean of Students office.
I guess I’m wondering if you would feel this way if you didn’t have your boyfriend? If you really want to transfer, then you should. People transfer all the time. But you should really think about why you want to transfer. Codependency is a dangerous thing.
- Talk to a counselor at college
- Don’t go to your BF’s every weekend…one reason you don’t feel like you fit, is because you are not allowing yourself to fit. You are not investing the time in friends or activities.
Highly suggest counseling . . . there is nothing wrong with transferring but it sounds like deeper stuff might be going on. I would want to dig into that a little before I bailed on where you are.