Okay so I’m in my third week of university and I freaking hate it. I live at home (thank god) but so far things have been terrible. I’m like 99% sure this program is not for me, I picked it to please my parents and I don’t think they’ll ever let me switch. My anxiety has caused me to skip some classes. I hate being at school and none of the classes interest me (except psych). I haven’t really made any friends and I have this firm belief that you can’t make friends when you’re in college because unless someone grew up with you, they don’t give a crap about you. So making new friends isn’t a real thing. Also no one likes me because as nice as I try to be, I guess I’m just awkward and undesirable as a person.
Also, I know deep down there are things that interest me, but they’re risky to study and I don’t want to be unemployed…also lately I’ve been in a slum of some sort and nothing excites me. Life is so boring.
Anyone have any advice on how I could survive these next four, awful years? It would be much appreciated.
What? Do you think anyone who ever got married met their spouse as a toddler?
I think you need to make an appointment with your campus counseling center, because you appear to have a high degree of anxiety and irrational fear, which is already putting roadblocks in the way of having a successful and happy college experience.
I guess that’s a good point, but I feel like any “friends” I make won’t actually be real friends. I feel like everyone is just judgmental.
I have made an appointment…hopefully it helps. Although I can’t see myself having a happy experience in anything (grade school and high school both sucked balls).
Honestly in the same boat as you, my anxiety has hit an all time high and i just hate going. I made like two friends but sometimes it honestly feels like i am just their third wheel. I am 8 hours from home and it’s not like i can just go home and everything will be ok. I think going to a counselor like bodangles said would be a good thing. But i really understand where you are coming from. Hopefully it gets better!
It took until my sophomore year to really make friends, but I’m now married to someone from college and all of my close friends except one are from college (and the one was from high school).
It’s been 3 weeks. No one makes close friends in 3 weeks.
I hope your appointment helps
This isn’t true, but I could see where you might get the idea from. Making new friends takes time. When you’ve grown up with someone, they’ve gotten a chance to really know you and care about you. You can develop relationships with people like that as an adult, too, but it takes some time. Not an entire lifetime, but more than three weeks.
Will your parents allow you to double major? If not, maybe you can pick the other thing you like as a minor.
Attitude is everything. Change that and your circumstances will change.
As far as the major - I feel bad for your generation because it used to be that you could get educated in what you were interested in and as long as you had that education you’d be ok in life. Now, not so much. You do have to think about being employable and the ability to land a job. It’s just the way our competitive, poor economy (1% growth a year is a not a good economy), and changing economy is). Kind of sucks.
@juillet Unfortunately the program I’m doing doesn’t work with a double major. And to do a minor I’d have to take extra courses because I only have like two electives in four years.
It’s a fun time.
@Empireapple it does suck
I have a firm belief that you won’t make any friends in college when you’re going back home to your parents’ house every night
I feel the same way as you! I’m so awkward with people I don’t know and I’m just not the most happy smiley person ever so it’s so hard for me just to put myself out there and make friends! I’m dorming 2 hours away from home and I’m miserable. I’m trying to transfer and I’m so conflicted about it. Are any of your friends that you grew up with still around? Reach out to them and do stuff with them so you don’t feel so alone and pressured to make friends. I doubt its you! You probably just haven’t found the right people! I go home and I click so well with the kids at local colleges and obviously with my friends from high school but in college I’m just not getting the hang of it and it sucks. You’re definitely not alone.
@a20171 I do have some close friends that I frequently hang out with, which is helpful. Sorry to hear you’re feeling miserable. I hope the transfer works out well for you.
Why would you think that? Do you believe that adults in the working world can’t make friends because they don’t live together? High school students have friends, but they all go home to their own homes every night. Why would college be different?
OP, I think you need to talk to a counselor and your parents. You also need to quit skipping classes before you tank your GPA. If you can’t manage, you may want to consider withdrawing until you’re ready to attend. If you missed the deadline, you could pursue a medical withdrawal if you see your physician and get the proper paperwork.