<p>After 2 years and 3 schools, I absolutely hate college! Its not like I'm dumb my first year I went to a private school upstate and got a 3.9, THEN I decided was so miserable and super unhappy so I took a semester off to think about what I should do. But I did take a class that summer in 2010. So finally I decided to attend Stony Brook U.The worst thing I could have ever done Well what a joke, had to be the worst experience of my life, aside from practically failing nearly all my exams. I managed a 2.5, A B C C+ D+ SOMETHING LIKE THT........ which apparently is great there, I was satisfied considering its extremely difficult to transfer from a 5000 student college to +40000 university. I never experience anything, lectures with 200+ students in a class, well that wasnt my breaking point, nont only did I receive a D+ in my major course but I was like shocked, fine tho. I had a job for the fall semester and everything AT SBU, So summer 2011 I decide to take a math course considering I done well in Calc 1 WITH A + AND THE HORRENDUS D IN CALC2 TO WHICH HAD 300 STUDENTS and a recitation professor that barely spoke english and ridiculed us if we didnt understand something..[planned to make that up this fall.. and considering that was my major, i took a math class over summer2012, upon finishing the sum course I had a C+ but at stony that sound just about right.... OK, WHEN i looked at my transcript in august I had gotten an F, MY FIRST EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! boy did that kill my gpa and considering it had already been printed on my final transcript the University refuse to change, my professor decided to lower all the grades by bcuz over more than 30% of the class had As, ummm idk how they is even right. well she emailed me a bunch of bull unfortunately and I am sorry you were led to believe this. SO with that in mind i transferred again, now Im doing well although I am undeclared, I believe everything happens for a reason, although now at this point i feel im in college just bcuz and IM now approaching my junior yr in Spring 12 with all these transfers mess ups, im only a semester behind but I am absolute 100% miserable and over college itself. :/</p>
<p>what do you think ???</p>
<p>so far this semester Ive produced my A/B work</p>
<p>Sounds like a little bit of a mess, but I percieve that you are pretty smart. Perhaps just very distracted and maybe a bit depressed? So I would say that since you are so far along, soldier on and finish up. Time flies when you are busy with school, and it sounds like the sooner you are finished the better! Maybe do some extra work next summer to accelerate that graduation date.</p>
<p>Lilo, have you talked to your parents at all ? Or to any advisors or counselors at your schools? It’s obvious that you are a bright and capable student–but the fact that you are unhappy everywhere you have gone, and are suffering increasing levels of difficulty in dealing with things, seems that maybe the problem is in the mirror and not in the schools. could you get some counseling to help you cope with the academic environments so that you can be successful again?</p>
<p>I have and well at SB that was no help, my parents just say yet know I’m intelligent hence graduation Hs with 3.7. All together I’ve decide I will be meeting with an advisor soon, things is based on my cumulative gpa from all my schools I have a 3.something so they’re like ohh its ok. Personally I think it’s all just a big mess at tho point, I’m more so frustrated than anything bcuz who really likes to fail. So we’ll see what’s said, I will be meeting with my advisor at my new school to discuss options</p>
<p>That’s what I thought also. I’m not to shy of depressed but not there yet because I feel I’ve come to far to just give up, after 60 something credits. I think I need to finish. I will be accelerating it because like I stated I’m over college haven’t enjoyed it yet tuh still trying to figure out what makes it the best four years. I want to finish strong at least 3.6 I now need to find thy motivation I once had bcuz at this point it gone. And yes I was distracted hence that semester off, but I think it was much need. I honestly felt much better on a whole. School is dragging I think that’s my biggest issue, but patience is a virtue and I know that my future has to be bright after all this confusion</p>
<p>College is not about the grades, it is about studying a field in depth, your major, plus getting some courses in other fields to round you out. By now you should have an idea of what most interests you. Just because you did well in some HS subjects doesn’t mean you need to major in one of them. Stop obsessing over the gpa. Instead, visit your college career center to find out where your aptitudes and interests (there is testing) lead you. You will not be happy without a focus, a goal to reach. Getting a certain gpa is not the goal of being educated. Your diploma will not state your gpa and your future is not dependent on maintaining a certain gpa. Most students will find their college gpa is lower than their HS one.</p>
<p>Read the college rules on the F (They can vary by campus). It may be that you can re-take the class and replace the grade. That can help a GPA immensely. </p>
<p>It doesn’t matter whether you fly over the finish line or crawl over the finish line – sure, there are some paths where the overall GPA matters (medical school,say) but not in many other paths. </p>
<p>I wish you could find a major that you loved. Many times juniors and seniors are much happier because they have fiddly requirements out of the way and they are concentrating on topics that they really love. </p>
<p>You may want to also think about internships – or a full gap year. Courses can seem a lot more meaningful if they relate more directly to other aspects of your life. </p>
<p>Please do keep the wider world in mind. There’s no law that says you have to have a degree or have to do it in four years. You just need to find a path that works for you. Good luck!</p>
<p>“Best Four Years” is a myth. Yes, some people feel that way when they look back over their lives, but to be perfectly honest, do you really want the rest of your life to be one long, slow, downhill slide?</p>
<p>It is perfectly OK to set your eyes on the prize, and grind your way through college with that end goal in mind. If you focus on your goal, it will be much easier for you to accept the icky, boring, or just plain not much fun aspects of college. Make your post-college years the “Best Years”.</p>
<p>I agree with happymom that the “Best Four Years…” is a myth. I felt that way for maybe the first 2 years of college, and then the relatively small LAC I attended started to close in on me. Was tired of the communal living, the cafeteria food and the same people and suburban campus. My parents were “old school” and would not agree to the gap year I proposed, nor to a semester abroad (I knew I wanted grad school and they thought it would look like a “vacation” on my transcript!). So I just soldiered on, as did many of my friends those last 2 years, and finished up. We did manage some fun along the way, but the “Best Four Years…”, I don’t think so. As another poster pointed out, the world is a big place with lots to explore. So I guess what I am saying is that you are not alone!</p>
<p>If you really hate college, decide what you like and go find a way to do it. But if you’re just upset about having a bad couple of years, and want to put that behind you, your life is not ruined. Make a change, find the determination, it’s what you do from here on out that will matter.</p>
<p>I know many now successful people who have similar stories about their college years. So don’t be defeated!</p>
<p>No one ever said you were supposed to love college. I am sure there were things about high school and grade school you didn’t like either. Just do your best and get through the rest of college as quick as you can. Don’t worry about finding the “perfect” school or major because there is no perfect place or perfect major. Look at this time as your job to improve the rest of your life. Make a plan to major in whatever you can apply the most of your classes towards and finish without prolonging the agony by switching majors or schools. The next few years will go fast and you will be out of there before you know it. Look for ways to make it as enjoyable as possible but don’t worry if it isn’t at all. Just get it done. You have gone too far to have all you have done go to waste. Finish a degree and you will have a much easier time getting a job you enjoy after school than if you don’t finish. Half a degree means nothing. It is very easy to not return after taking time off. You have already tried three schools - just stick it out at this one - find a major that will allow you to graduate in a reasonable amount of time that you don’t dislike and just stick it out. Having that degree will make the rest of your life that much better - you will have many more doors open for you with the degree than without. And I wouldn’t get too hung up on a major unless you wanted something specific like nursing. Lots of jobs don’t care what your major is – just look at the companies that come to your job fair. I looked at my son’s job fair at school and about half of the employers would consider students from Any major. Good luck to you!</p>