I hate everyone at my stupid school. Everyday I have to go to school I feel like I lose more and more sanity. Anyone have any tips about not feeling so much hatred for your peers at school?
Thats right, no one reply. Ignore me like all of my classmates do.
Maybe wait longer than fifteen minutes before writing off the entire internet as a loss.
- High school has a built-in end date. Make a countdown -- to your next break, to summer, to graduation.
- Distract yourself with things you enjoy. You don't have to talk to people, you can read a book or draw or whatever.
- Try to find a way to get over it. The anger you feel isn't negatively affecting them in any way; it's only making YOU miserable.
Get professional counseling.
I do have to talk to people as I have to participate in many group projects and other speaking related activities. Often I will just try and ignore them when they talk to me but that only works for so long.
If it’s you against several hundred other kids-- if you can’t find even a few who aren’t worthy of your hatred-- then it’s not them, it’s you.
The idea of counseling wasn’t a snide remark; it was a good suggestion.
And I’m sorry I couldn’t get here in the 15 minute window you allowed. I was tutoring.
Yup you’re probably right. Guess I am just destined to live a miserable life. Thanks
If you can change your mindset, no.
Otherwise, yes, it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I doubt I’m going to be able to change my mindset. I should just give up trying to be happy.
But thanks anyway
That kind of sounds like depression, which brings us back to the suggestion of counseling.
I can’t get counseling. I would be too embarrassed. I have a hard time opening up to people as well. I wouldn’t be able to share anything with a counselor.
I can personally understand you because as a freshman, I used to be your type. I would hate talking to people, but you know how I fixed it? I made myself public. Do something crazy (that will not get you a detention) and you’ll be the source of attention. Do something funny in class. If you keep up like this, you are heading down a miserable road.
Also, go to guidance counselors. They usually don’t share any information with anyone, especially not students or other teachers. If they see that you may have suicidal thoughts or plan to harm someone, then they will get you the help you need and make your life a lot better. It’s a win-win situation. I have literally cried to my two guidance counselors that I have had over stress, and they really do their best to help, succeeding. I think it is actually more embarrassing that you aren’t seeing guidance counselors, as everyone does it. From the person who won’t graduate high school for a couple years to the valedictorian who is going to HYP, everybody goes to the guidance counselor.
Now you have two options:
- You can ignore my advice, remain exactly how you are, and remain the rest of your life as a rude person, believing that you are worthless trash
- You can do something about it, not be afraid to express yourself, become a well-known and well-liked kid, and end up to be something so much more.
Personally, I think 2 is clearly the better option.
That sounds like high school to me.
If you need to get through it with your sanity, do seek out counseling. It’s all about making things better for you, not that you are the only real problem. It’s a question of how to make a bad situation better.
What year in school are you?Have you thought of homeschool? If you’re in a small school, and you despise everyone so much, it might be better to homeschool or transfer schools. Have you talked with your parents about this? Sometimes feeling stuck in a situation is worse than whatever is actually going on, so if you figure out some options to liberate yourself, you might feel better about things.
If you’re a senior, then you’re in luck! You’ve only got 6 more months and you’ll be done. Good luck. It’s hard when life feels rotten, but you’re smart and you’ll figure something out for yourself. Just try to be patient.
I am attending a magnet school. It is a very good school in that it puts me in a very good position to get into top colleges. As such, leaving is not really an option. I am only a junior, unfortunately, so I still have a lot of time left. I can’t talk to my mother because she will threaten to take me out of the school, and as I stated earlier, this school is going to allow me to get into a very good school. It’s been instilled in me that getting into a good college is more important than having fun in high school. It just is really painful sometimes.
Homeschool is not an option as I know that if I don’t surround myself with other high achieving students I will be lazy and not get into a good college.
I get it. Whenever my daughter got tired of the grind of school, we’d always laugh about how great it would be to stay home and study SpongeBob all day. Junior year sucks, frankly. It really does. If you’re at a magnet school, is that for the arts? Or math/sciences?
Smaller schools are great in many ways but socially it can be hard because there’s such a small pool of classmates and friend groups. If you get sick of everybody, there’s no where to escape to find a different group of friends. Same kids, same clubs, same everything. One thing that’s helped my D is that her after school activity had nothing to do with her school, so whenever she felt stuck (trapped!) she’d just focus more on those friends. She found that before she knew it, whatever was bugging her at school eventually passed. Be patient with yourself, and keep in mind these are feelings you’re having now, but they’ll pass in time. Just try not to focus on the negative too much. This may sound stupid, but think of 3 things each day that you like about your school. Do that’s for 21 days in a row. Then see how you feel. It can be anything, just as long as it’s positive. You can still have fun in high school, but I have to say that junior year was the most un-fun year of them all at our house. Lots of pressure, that’s for sure. Things will work out.
Edit: I didn’t see posts about guidance counselors…that’s a fantastic idea and don’t be hesitant in seeking their help. That’s what they’re paid to do, and you’ll feel a lot better, too. Take care.
There’s nothing embarrassing about counseling. Seeing someone who can help you with a mental health issue is no different from seeing a dentist or an oncologist. No one needs to know you’re going, no one needs to be aware of the issue unless you choose to tell them.
Why not speak to your guidance counselor? Or, if you don’t like him/her, then your favorite teacher? Let him/her know what’s going on, and ask what your next step should be.
My 17 year old daughter sees a counselor for anxiety issues, and it has made a huge difference in her life. Seriously, it’s something you should consider. Why choose to be unhappy when this one choice could help you to be happy?
Going to a magnet school in itself offers no better chance to get into a top school. Ease up and look for other routes. There is always an option.