<p>Oh my god I am so ****ed off. So I am somewhat sick this weekend and my roommate is nowhere to be found on Friday. I am like "Yes! Finally some alone time!". I was looking forward to a nice relaxing weekend in my dorm just fighting off the cold and doing some "personal" stuff haha. Well today I take a nice walk to grab some food and am looking forward to relaxing when boom hes back. Seriously, we don't even speak to eachother or nothing. I am so mad right now. Never, ever get a roommate. Seriously. People need their own space.</p>
<p>You are SO immature. Learn to accommodate. It's a good life skill.</p>
<p>it's his room too. He has a right to be there.</p>
<p>I think my roommate is like you...whenever I come back to the room he leaves...sometimes he says "Oh you're back" which is kind of unwelcoming...I am not in the room all the time and our schedules are different so he gets his alone time...Learn to deal with it you really seem like a ***** right now</p>
<p>Deal with it, it's his room too. Stop being a baby and suck it up. He has just as much right to be there as you do, and if you don't talk to each other you can still relax in your room with him there. Oh and as for "personal" stuff, that's what the shower is for, do it in there.</p>
<p>Consider the fact that if you did talk to one another, you would have known he hadn't left for the weekend (and you would know when he did), and today's anger would be a non-issue.</p>
<p>Everyone does need space, but like it or not, your room is shared. You can't declare it "private" at your convenience. Take a long shower, go for a walk, find a coffee shop, head to the library, find a quiet dorm rec room...it might not be ideal, but if you want some space away from your roommate, and he's not doing anything unreasonable, you need to take the initiative to find it.</p>
<p>Good luck working this out.</p>
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Oh and as for "personal" stuff, that's what the shower is for, do it in there.
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<p>Just please be sure to make sure all surfaces are clean after you finish for the rest of us. :(</p>
<p>my (ex) roommate and i never spoke to each other either...in fact, after a certain point i didn't even live in the room...i would sleep in the common room, which wasn't very pleasant at all. the problem was that she would get so drunk and fed up after partying hard on the weekend that she would come back to the room, black out, and then **** on MY things or my side of the room. it was really the worst experience of my life. but anyway, she moved out and i got a new roommate and life is great! so if you really don't like your roommate, do something about it. my RA knew about my situation but did nothing to help me, instead she got all buddy buddy with my ex roommate and basically took her side. i was afraid to actually request to leave because i didn't feel i should be the one to leave the room, so it was quite a relief when it was the ex roommate who decided to leave (even though she just moved into the single next door)...so my advice would be to either suck it up this year and get a single next year, or see if you can move into another room, although it is pretty late.</p>
<p>Yea.. its not that big of a deal. I was just ****ed at the moment, but now I don't really care.</p>
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<p>Oh and as for "personal" stuff, that's what the shower is for, do it in there.
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masturbating in the shower is for girls.</p>
<p>You can't bring in a computer and watch porn in the shower.</p>
<p>"You are SO immature. Learn to accommodate. It's a good life skill."</p>
<p>Immature? What? Being trapped in a room with no privacy with some jerk can be a pretty annoying experience. You don't know that, because you're the jerk in these situations.</p>
<p>You know what? I bet your roomate thinks the exact same thing. Why don't you stop being a jerk and give him some privacy? Newsflash: He pays to live in that room too you know?!</p>
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masturbating in the shower is for girls.</p>
<p>You can't bring in a computer and watch porn in the shower.
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<p>If you can't get off without watching porn then you're going to have some trouble when you finally get the chance to touch a girl.</p>
<p>"aw hell yeah, it's the weekend!" <em>masturbates</em></p>
<p>In the 8 grade i went for a little college trip i had two roommates and 1 was cool and the other was what i thought a jerk. But we talked and had a lot of fun together. At the end of the week our room was trashed and we were going to have to clean it or pay $100 when i got to the room he had cleaned it all by himself. So you never know.</p>
<p>Not everyone needs porn to masturbate, and I'm not sure any girls would want a guy who needs porn to jack off. Porn's okay occasionally, but jeez, for a quickie just use your damn imagination, it's what we do.</p>
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Immature? What? Being trapped in a room with no privacy with some jerk can be a pretty annoying experience. You don't know that, because you're the jerk in these situations.
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ignoring the fact that the above is immature, i think that maybe if you just talk to him and actually get to know him you wouldnt be in this place. </p>
<p>I went to a summer program over the summer and my roommate was a weird asian kid who was kinda shy and didn't really want to talk to me. I made it a mission to talk to him, to get to know him, so i wouldn't be in your situation.</p>
<p>I don't like having a roommate either. Privacy is just a nice thing to have, no matter what you're doing.</p>
<p>You're not always going to get along with your roommate, or have similar interests... but colleges do that on purpose. So, I really don't know why the concept of being incompatible with your roommate is so hard for people to fathom.</p>
<p>My advice would be to pretend to like them. You only have a couple of months left. Get out of your room more often. Go to the gym, go to a friend's room, go to the library, go to a dining hall, join clubs... be active, and get your thinking time in then.</p>
<p>OP is complaining about having a roommate? geez. try having TWO randomly assigned roommates, like roughly 85% of my class did last year. boy was that a barrel of laughs.
even if it's with best friends, 3 people should never live in a room meant for 2...
but hey. i survived, and i think i learned a lot from the experience. so suck it up, the year will end, and next year you'll probably have more control over your living situation. i'm in a single this year, and sometimes i actually wish i DID have a roomie, because i get kind of lonely. never thought i'd be saying that after last year...</p>
<p>"ignoring the fact that the above is immature, i think that maybe if you just talk to him and actually get to know him you wouldnt be in this place.</p>
<p>I went to a summer program over the summer and my roommate was a weird asian kid who was kinda shy and didn't really want to talk to me. I made it a mission to talk to him, to get to know him, so i wouldn't be in your situation."</p>
<p>I don't think it's immature to not like someone. I don't like most people, and I don't see what this has to do with maturity. I tried talking to my roomies like you did, but it just didn't work. And I don't think it would work if you tried it with them, either. They really were THAT BAD.</p>
<p>I currently don't live with a roommate, and it's AWESOME. I can fall asleep effortlessly, no more awkward moments that last for hours, the room doesn't smell terrible, I can have friends over without being embarrassed, no more dumb awkward questions, oh, and I can fall asleep EFFORTLESSLY. I don't have to ask someone to turn the light off, who will then immediately open his laptop with a REALLY REALLY REALLY bright screen and proceed to click on things for the duration of the night, and then not go to class at all the next day.....meaning that when I return to the room after/between classes, 90% chance he'd be there sleeping, and I'd have to be silent. This is with two different roommates in different semesters. Both were terrible, terrible people. </p>
<p>If you don't share a bedroom, or if a bedroom is all you share, it's fine. I shared a room with my brothers as a youngster, and it wasn't bad at all. Maybe if my school was nicer and people were more social, or if my roomie had more friends to go off and play with when he wanted to do annoying stuff, it would have been better.</p>