So currently I am at a college that I didn’t even know of. I had my heart set on a college I thought I’d get into but was waitlisted. My mom made me do back up schools and ended up at one of them. The school I am at I did not even tour, my friend came to me said come here and I decided to go. I was very open to this school the first semester but realized very strongly this is not my school I want to be at. I have until May to deal with an annoying,and obsessed roommate while battling depression and anxiety myself. Please send advice and help me out as I am losing confidence with what to do the remainder of the time. Thank you.
Well…, the main advice is to others reading this thread. This is why you start by finding matches & safeties you would like to attend, then worry about finding reach schools.
My advice is to focus diligently on your studies. Your ability to transfer in dependent on good grades. Spend time in the library if your roommate annoys you.
You also might make new friends this semester. Part time jobs, study groups, volunteering, or clubs are things to try.
If you are struggling a lot with depression and anxiety, see if your campus health center has counsrlors you can talk to.
It’s okay to transfer next year, but try to keep an open mind while you’re there maybe your “annoying and obsessed roommate” is having a hard time too. Some people check out when they’re upset and other people over compensate. Try to do things even if it feels against your will sometimes like going out to dinner with your roommate, going to a party or sitting in the lounge to study instead of your room. Also agree to join more clubs.
The problem isn’t the college. Depression and anxiety can happen regardless of where you go to school and it’ll just follow you to the next school. If you face the illness, it can give you a new perspective that can make a world of difference. College was meant to be hard and stressful. That’s the whole idea. It’s supposed to suck! I recommend going to the health center. A few months of regular therapy can help a lot in a very short period of time.
A roommate situation can, at best, make life significantly happier, or, at worst, make going home every night a living nightmare. Communication is key. How you communicate with your roommate, and how comfortable you both are with offering and accepting criticism, can often determine how well you get along. So immediately set as a standard that you’d like your roommate to come to you with complaints, rather than letting feelings stew.
https://papers-masters.com/blog/what-to-do-if-i-hate-my-roommate
- Visit the Counseling Center and talk about your depression
- Is your roommate annoying because you are depressed, or are there specific things they do that you could talk to them about?
- Do well in your classes so you can transfer
- Visit other colleges before you apply