<p>Additional advice: Date! Find someone, just one person, of your preferred gender each week, and invite him/her to go SOMEWHERE and enjoy SOMETHING with you in the next seven days. Even something as similar as breakfast in the dining hall tomorrow morning before your classes. Tell your RA you need a blind date. ANYTHING. Just start getting to know people, one person at a time. </p>
<p>You have said multiple times that people don’t invite you to parties. Why should they? Do they know you? Introduce yourself. Ask what’s going on that’s fun. Anyone: 1st year, upper classmen, whomever. People generally don’t invite random strangers to parties, so don’t be a stranger - introduce yourself. (And I must say that some of the best parties I’ve ever been to or thrown had MANY people there I didn’t know before.)</p>
<p>"(and I would never go to a frat party.)" I personally was not interested in the Greek lifestyle, but… they’re people, too. You will be surprised again and again in college at some of the people who are Greek. You’d never figure them for it - they don’t seem like the type at all, but… whaddaya know, they are. I ended up with some Greek friends who really shattered my preconceptions. (I still never went to a Greek party, though.)</p>
<p>“My roommate is more nerdy/socially awkward than I am, but he’s somehow found friends and is never in the room.” I have news for you: the “somehow” isn’t a secret or a miracle. I’m willing to bet he found friends following exactly the advice we have given you. ASK HIM how he found his new friends.</p>
<p>If I were in Cville I’d take you by the hand, drag you to any event, sit you down next to the first cute guy/girl I see, and say, “This is Broom. He doesn’t feel comfortable opening conversations yet, but… why are <em>you</em> here?” And then wander off and look in on you 15 or 20 minutes later, and if the conversation is dead, repeat. </p>
<p>NO ONE there will ever get angry at you for introducing yourself. Man is a social creature. We need connection to other people. That’s why you’re down right now, because you feel that is missing. </p>
<p>I’m not going to give some moronically stupid advice like “snap out of it.” I’ve been clinically depressed; many of us have. It hellasucks, we know. I know you can’t just suddenly happify. </p>
<p>But you CAN start to meet and connect with new people, just by deciding to do it and then doing it. </p>