<p>In school I'm known as the weird kid, the nerd with no friends who just does well in school and does nothing else. People don't really make fun of me, but they do ignore me a lot and almost never talk to me. And usually when they're talking to me, they're doing it to make fun of me. I don't wear the "cool" clothes or try to act cool, I just try to be myself but it seems like people are picking on me because I'm different. You see I'm Asian and I don't like what others like - I like computers and technology but no one is similar to me. I'm like a loner in high school, I barely have any friends and every day when I come home from school, I have basically nothing to do besides surf the Internet. </p>
<p>And I can't repair my reputation because I've already been with the same people since 5th grade. It's already my junior year in high school and everything pretty much seems the same still. No friends, just school, that's it. </p>
<p>High school is always that way. You’ll find tons of people like you in college; that’s a given. Do what you like, act yourself, be friendly and upbeat, (and like above poster, join a few clubs or teams if you really want to get to know more people) and screw the rest.</p>
<p>I kind of have that same reputation. Not as much as before, though.</p>
<p>Honestly, I don’t care. Why? Because I’m better than everybody else. If they want to be my friend and they’re a decent person, OK. </p>
<p>To everyone else?</p>
<p>■■■■ of my way, and if you don’t like me, then that’s your loss. Thanks for inflating my rank with your stupidity and laziness.</p>
<p>Really, why would you want to be friends with “cool” kids? These are the same kids that wind up attending UCR (The University of California for the ■■■■■■■■) or some dumb school that nobody has ever heard of. These people are losers. There’s nothing to be proud about in what they do.</p>
<p>I think I will have to go with Kiwi_Nights on this one. Don’t change for people around you. It is probably best to ignore those who make fun of you. In my experience, once you start to ignore people like that, they will either ignore you in return or start to need your help. You did say you are a nerd-everybody makes fun of the nerd . . . until they need help with homework. And, to be honest, it does not seem that these are the type of people you should spend time with. You should spend time with people who actually appreciate you.</p>
<p>And, getting to the whole ignoring thing. We are social creatures. We NEED to have some sort of relationship with fellow humans. It can be only one. But is has to exist. The best relationships are developed in person. Thus, it is probably best for you to try to find some club or after-school activity. Remember, such a friend does not have to be a junior-try a freshman. Freshmen are better than sophomores (sorry sophomores-I was just as annoying). If you really cannot develop such an acquaintance in school, try other activities around you. It does not have to be in a local soup kitchen-you can find friends at any extracurricular activities in your area. Finally, if you MUST resort to the internet, please avoid some of the less . . . savory communities. I am not sure how college confidential ranks in this category-I am a NEW member, in every sense of the term.</p>
<p>Also, if you don’t have one already, try to find a hobby, a goal, a dream. Hobbies help to make difficult environments more bearable. The same goes for a purpose. This is what I am currently working on. My condition is pretty similar to yours-I am a student who is good at school, bad at life (if you would like to throw out my post on this grounds, I understand). Thus, I am working on the purpose (if you check my “thread”-note the singular). It doesn’t have to be a calling. It just has to be something to dedicate yourself to in hopes of taking your mind off your surroundings.</p>
<p>Yeah. That’s a lot. But this is life. You will be much happier and more successful in the long run if you work at any of the above. If you would like, I have included a link to an essay which always inspires me. It’s Emerson’s “Self-reliance.” You might not like it. You might have read it for English. But it helps . . . at least in my case. >.>
[url=<a href=“404 not found - Ralf Waldo Emerson”>Self-Reliance - Ralph Waldo Emerson - Summary & Full Essay]Self-Reliance[/url</a>]</p>
<p>Wow, judgy wudgy. I think a lot of these people have experiences and skill sets that stereotypical CCers could never have–living purely in academia is living in a bubble, you need to know how to deal with real-life social situations.</p>
<p>A lot of the “cool” people at my school end up at respected public flagship universities and even some top universities/ivies. How do you judge someone to be a loser?</p>
<p>I think some of the smartest people at my school are the hipsters who smoke weed every day, lots of psychedelic drugs, have amazing writing skills, and are the best in debates/discussions. They go to top LACs like Swarthmore, Middlebury, Vassar, etc. </p>
<p>It doesn’t matter what (cringing at saying the word) clique one is in, intelligence is spread all over. I mean, that’s an obvious statement, but people’s prejudices are bothering me…</p>
<p>OP: Don’t worry about it, you’re almost out of high school. There are plenty of people like you in the world. You’ll find them some day If you want to be more immediate, you could makeover your clothes/style/hair. You don’t have to change to who you are - just the way you market yourself.</p>
<p>ntktop, I’m Asian too who does not really correlate with people in my school very well and looking foward to a brighter experience in college. If you want to talk to me, you can chat with me on AIM. Do you want to?</p>
<p>I have some empathy, as I used to be pretty shy and had a select group of friends and pretty much was the “oh that was a kid in our school?-in the yearbook” person for a while… I was shy too, true, but back then it was more laziness to talk to new people and me playing games and refusing to be social.</p>
<p>Since early-mid HS I’ve been more socially active, outgoing, and relaxed and it’s been great - not the most popular person, but generally I get along with most people and have many people I know.</p>
<p>Eh, I really don’t know - rarely is it someone else’s fault…although it certainly isn’t yours. Just try to be more outgoing, find some people to hang out with (everyone at your school can’t be that bad), chill, and don’t worry too much.</p>
<p>Honestly… people are mean and lame in high school. You’ll find friends that will love you for who you are in college.</p>
<p>Anyway, soon the people who ostracized you and made fun of you for actually being intelligent will be bagging your groceries (cough look up Maddox + bag groceries on Google for a nice laugh). :)</p>
If you want to be more immediate, you could makeover your clothes/style/hair. You don’t have to change to who you are - just the way you market yourself.</p>