<p>So I have a nice list of colleges that I plan on applying to this fall. Here's my list...</p>
<p>Webster University
Truman State University
Drury University
Lindenwood University</p>
<p>I plan on adding a couple more schools before it's all over, but I have a problem. My mother seems to find something wrong with every college I have ever had on my list. She'll pull out some excuse like "It's too far away," or "It's too expensive," or "I don't see you there." The other day I brought up that I had put Truman State on my list and she said I couldn't go there because I didn't want to go there two days before. After she gives one of her excuses, she tells me that she's the one paying the check so I'll go where she wants. I know where she wants to send me. It's a private college over in another state. It's almost $40,000 a year. Their music department is one of the worst in the state. I honestly can't see myself there. I have told her several times, but she's always telling me that it's where they can afford to send me and I'd better be happy about it.</p>
<p>It seems that I can't convince her that I really don't want to go there. I have the colleges on my list for a reason and she can't change my mind about them. But it seems that if I don't go to the college of her choice, I'll have no way to pay for school. What am I supposed to do?</p>
<p>tough break. i had a problem like that too. Heres what I did, I "forgot" to send in all the pieces of application. I dont know how thorough your mom is but if shes like mine she wouldnt have noticed what acceptance/rejection letters i got. Colleges "reject" overqualified applicants all the time.</p>
<p>Unfortunately, I think my mother would triple check my application to make sure everything was set to go.
I know she's hoping I get music scholarships which will pay for about $12,000 of tuition. I had considered just blowing my music auditions. But considering they have the worst music program in the state and they know that I'm a well accomplished musician, I'd still get some cash. Dang it...</p>
<p>then tell her youll register as an independant and apply for financial aid. basically registering as an independant says your family cant contribute to your university cost. then she will have absolutely no say in where you go. Or at your audition you could tell them you really dont want to go to there school and beg them to reject you.</p>
<p>i know somebody who applied somehwere because her parents wanted her to but then wrote them a letter afterwards saying that they didnt want to go and would never attend. that did it.</p>
<p>If she's that adamant about it and refuses to listen to you when you say you want to go somewhere else you can
A) Go where she wants you to or
B) Pay for it yourself somewhere else.
Keep working on her.</p>
<p>You might need to seriously talk with her. Be like "Mom, I know you love me and all, but it's four years of my life. Please let me go to a college that I would be comfortable at." If that doesn't work, then you'll have to carry loans if she's not willing to pay for where ever you wanna go.</p>