<p>College sucks. I have no friends. I moved to campus during the spring semester and it seems like everybody already has their group of friends and they dont seem to want to add another guy. I have two roommates but they always hang out together (they are both from Nigeria and are really involved in the African club at my school). I have joined a bunch of clubs but that hasnt helped. I feel like such a loser. Any tips on how I can make friends?</p>
<p>Dude, it’s probably your attitude. At least you’ve made an effort by joining clubs, but do you make an effort to socialize with the people in the clubs? What about people on your floor? I found the easiest way to make friends is to “go out” with them on the weekends, and then eventually you’ll meet their friends. Key is to hang out with people all the time, and not just use them for certain things. My groups of freinds came from three places, 1. from high school 2. from my floor, (we workout and eat together alot) and 3. From my club sport. Also, rush next semester and your guranteed like 40 new friends.</p>
<p>I am very sociable. Ill talk to everyone but as I said, everybody has has their group. I forgot to mention that I live in the basement and there are no other rooms down here. So there is no one else to chill with.</p>
<p>I also don’t want to force myself on people and come off as desperate.</p>
<p>Ok I dont want to come off as desperate but I am pretty desperate.</p>
<p>Im so lonely. I think i might drop out or at least transfer schools</p>
<p>Have you tried lowering your standards? Maybe those kids that you think are unpopular would be more accepting than everyone else seems to be.</p>
<p>Build your confidence, and become the person you’d want to be friends with. Go make friends volunteering or at an internship. Learn an interesting skill, anything, that will make you more damn interesting. Give, and don’t expect anything back.</p>
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<p>I just dont get it. Ive never had trouble making friends. I barely even tried but I was super popular in high school. Everyone knew me and I had a close group of friends.</p>
<p>It’s possible that you’re being over friendly which is just as bad as being introverted. Friendships start slowly, you can’t rush them. Stick with being friendly but not over friendly. BTW, the most fulfilling friendships are the romantic kind.</p>
<p>I dont think im being too friendly. I am pretty shy but if someone starts a conversation with me ill talk.</p>
<p>I personally have a lot of “friendly acquaintances” (people I might briefly talk to when I see them but I’m not really what I’d call “friends” with them) but very few close friends. Strangely, my closest friends I actually don’t see that often, not nearly as often as I see a lot of these others that I am “friendly acquaintances” with. You might have to expect that your relations with people is just going to be different in college than in high school. You may often not have any classes with some of your friends and sometimes people are just busy and can’t always hang out. I’m pretty sure it’ll get worse when you become a legitimate adult too.</p>
<p>Yea, I have a lot of “acquaintances” but no one I can call up and hang out with. Its Saturday night, everyone is out having fun but Im in my room doing nothing. Ive texted 2 guys and they havnt even replied.</p>
<p>I guess I just have to come to terms that I am an unpopular loser.</p>
<p>With your attitude, yes. </p>
<p>“I just dont get it. Ive never had trouble making friends. I barely even tried but I was super popular in high school. Everyone knew me and I had a close group of friends.”</p>
<p>Learn that good things in life like friendship don’t come to you, you have to go after it. Even if you “barely even tried” in high school, that is not always the case.
Please suck up your poor attitude and put yourself out there.</p>
<p>Heck, make online friends and host TinyChat parties with them every Saturday night if you’re that desperate for people.</p>
<p>You always mentioned “guys.” Act really effeminate and befriend some girls.</p>
<p>Sometimes it takes awhile to find friends. My suggestion is to find activities you genuinely enjoy (aka don’t just join them to meet people) and spend time doing them. Alternatively, get a part time job. You’ll get the added benefit of some extra spending money while doing something to occupy your time.</p>
<p>Im going to be honest. I still have that problem. find someone who is moderately and stir up a chat and maybe invite them eat. if done succession, you will gain social magnetism. the harsh truth is people don’t like loners, people attracted to people who are in groups.</p>
<p>I can relate with the OP almost perfectly, since I’ve been pretty much alone for my entire life other than one or twice for a year or so. But, that being said, people are difficult to connect with. Sometimes you give off social cues, or you have an attitude, or you have low confidence or you just don’t do the same things… or you don’t reach out but think you are and mostly spend your time playing video games and picking your nose.</p>
<p>You can get or make friends by joining in students groups. Before joining think twice. Most of the students are spoiling their lives by drinking and smoking.</p>