<p>When I say this, I don't mean I'm a loner, never talk to anyone, sit by myself at the lunch table. I mean, I don't have anybody who'd invite me to say, their graduation party or who I'd invite to mine(an example I use because that's really what got me to notice that I have no friends). I can make friendly acquaintances just fine, people who'd chat with me if I pass by them in the halls, but their seems to be a block when it comes to making actual friendship, and for the life of me I can't figure out what it is. </p>
<p>I definitely had great friends in elementary and up till 7th grade, but after that, noone. </p>
<p>I talk with people plenty and don't act too weird as far as I can tell, so can anyone think of anything I'm possibly doing wrong (and don't say "just be yourself", I've been myself for the entirety, I've never acted fake. I've really only realized that I had no friends very recently) So, any advice?</p>
<p>Also, is their anyone else in my situation? I know plenty of people who are complete loners and people with friends, but I can't think of anyone who is social yet friendless.</p>
<p>you might want to make really good friends with whom you hang out with all the time, not just casual acquiantences. that way, you'll get asked to all their activities and such. Also, be active!! Hold movie nights or ask people if they want to go to the beach , mall, come over, etc. Also join clubs w/ peole who have the same interests as you.
I went to a school of 3000 strangers in a different culture and this is how i made really good friends/ best friends. </p>
<p>its hard to make good friends, no joke.
i take it you're a senior so kind of no point in stressing yourself out and trying to make friends last minute.
the difference between social and outgoing is that you can talk to people yet not hang out with them
just try to bring up like "oh we should go here or there"</p>
<p>Join the club. There's nothing wrong with it; I enjoy solitude.
Who cares if you have a graduation party? I'm a junior, and I doubt I'll go to my graduation let alone a party afterward.</p>
<p>You should join a club, definitely consider joining a sport! In sports you work as a team, so you would get to meet new people during practice, games, etc.</p>
<p>you should ask some of your casual aquaintances to hang out. go the movies or something. to me, being able to chill with someone outside of school definitely warrants some kind of friendship.</p>
<p>no, just kidding, but .. seriousely, if you have people to talk to at school, and someone to sit with at lunch, you're fine .. who wants to hang out with their peers outside of school, anyways? i hate almost every single person at my school and honestly i have no desire to be with them outside of school.</p>
<p>Ask someone in your classes if they'd like to study with you for a test or something. Then never lose contact with them. You two will bond! It worked for me!</p>
<p>Join a small club! You are more likely to find someone compatible with you and become great friends.</p>
<p>i know exactly how you feel. my only crime is that my sister loves Morrissey, and I like him a bit too. i have no friends who would confide in me or turn to me if they were going through trouble. no one who is ever interested in my life or my stresses either. </p>
<p>i have people who i can hang out with or something, but no real <em>friends</em>.</p>
<p>i don't really care, it's just that i extend my friendship and they just decide to turn away, glare at me and then go happy-excited over the next person they see, "oh my god I love _____".</p>
<p>I know how you feel. There just really isn't anyone at my school who I feel like I connect with. People think I'm weird because I love reading and writing; people think I'm trying too hard to be "intellectual," and have literally advised me to "dumb down." I figured I would never find anyone who has the same interests as me.</p>
<p>I think that it'll all change as we go to college, though. There are fresh faces - and there has to be someone else in the world that has your interests, and who you feel like you can connect with. I'm assuming you're a senior since you've mentioned graduation... I'm in your same position, so I don't know if the advice is sound, but I guess when we head off to college we should get ourselves out more for oppurtunities to meet people with similar passions.</p>
<p>I partly agree with mj93.
Now that I have a lot of friends, it is keeping me busy, therefore, I'm not studying as much as I should. I really hope I could be left alone for a bit, so I could focus more on my tests.
But since you really want a friend, I'd suggest that you wait till you're in college. What's the point of having friends then just leaving them? It'd be a complete waste of time. (Even though I believe in the "friends, they come and go" thing. And I'd just hate to KEEP my friends. One gets bored after a while.) To be frank, having them as peers is much better.</p>
<p>And if you're desperate and want to make friends with someone, take the members' advices, most of them work. But I can't assure that you'll get a "good" friend.</p>
<p>Friends are hard to come by, but "friends do come and go".</p>
<p>I would say that if you really feel the need to have a load of friends, then join clubs at your school, or do sports because you seem to make friends when your involved in sports! I do agree with Yasmine and mj93, I have alot of friends, and when you do have a lot of friends that keeps you extra busy and sometimes to busy. And believe me it's easy to become popular but its very hard to stay popular espically in high school!! Heyy you have college, and your bound to have/make plenty of friends in college!!</p>
<p>well, I definitely felt that way in hs...I can talk to people in class, etc, for hours and then when they're making sweet 16 invites for the class, I'm always forgotten. I have no idea how to fix this, either ;(</p>
<p>in all seriousness, try making a change to your personality. Nothing drastic or that you're uncomfortable with. But something like be more outgoing and talk more. Or learn a lot about politics to attract people who like politics. Or become really good-looking. good-looking= 100 free friends.</p>
<p>I'm kinda in the same situation. After going to high school I haven't really made friends, all my friends and my best friend went to different high schools. I'm kinda shy. But I just moved at the start of second semester of junior year, so thats why I don't really have friends right now.I, too, have people I talk to in classes and such, but no one I really hang out with. I eat lunch with my sis and her friends. I figure, I'm leaving in a little over a year, what the point?</p>
<p>I'm fine with it. I'm usually reading a book anyways :)</p>
<p>I had "friends" in high school, I mean, we mutually considered each other friends. However I concededly don't like any of my closests friends, except 1, (there's 3). In fact, I think the other two are annoying, and, well, really immature. I really don't like them at all. I won't miss them when I graduate and I won't talk to them ever again. I look forward to college, to make substantial and new friendships, and I think you should look forward to the same! I'm a little on the shy side, perhaps you are too, but don't let that prevent you from becoming more outgoing and more sociable in the future.</p>