<p>Yeah been pondering a bit and I noticed, I have a few friends. We hang out sometimes, see concerts or eat lunch. I also interact with a lot of people either at work or out of the house.</p>
<p>However I realized...none of those interactions seem to mean much? I suppose it's a weird feeling of loneliness and isolation...even when there are people around. No one really knows me well and most people I think are more interested in socializing and just having a few laughs but nothing else. So ultimately I find myself spending more time in my room or on my own. Just most of my friendships seem pointless almost and I wonder if I expect too much in a world where everybody is simply an acquaintance. </p>
<p>I really can't make sense of this as it's a bit contradicting but I am curious to know how common it is. Anyone else feel like this sometimes? If you did, has it ever gone away? </p>
<p>BTW I don't want to seem like a crazy or unsocial person, I happen to think I have a fairly average social life and I know how to talk to people and things. If college is anything like this though, it'll be a lot harder to deal with the transition. Idk I don't feel like reviewing old school notes and reading so maybe a discussion would turn out interesting.</p>
<p>Meh, maybe find some new friends. In a social circle it is typical for most people to be acquaintances, especially in larger social circles, but there should be at least one really good friend. I don’t know how I could be happy in your situation. I would even consider transferring universities. I need something more, like real friendship. I felt the way you feel with the friends I made in the 3rd high school I attended, and once I left that school I did not bother to keep in contact with that group of people, or say goodbye for that matter. However I am satisfied with the friends I have made in college and have made some really good friends. I feel like this is the way it’s supposed to be. Basically you should be happy with the people you socialize with and call friends, and if you’re not, change something up until you find what you’re looking for.</p>
<p>^So your girlfriends helped you feel less isolated?</p>
<p>Great feedback guys, it’s nice to see you found proper friends once in college. I’m gonna be going in the fall for the first time, however considering my current circumstances the prospect of making a really good friend or forming any close bond is very unlikely for someone like me. I’m not counting on anything at this point. </p>
<p>Richard Rivera you’re right, I can’t say I am happy the way things are. I certainly have no reason to be depressed but it does start to bother me a little when you realize there’s no one to turn to. I agree though, I don’t care for having a lot of friends but it helps alot if there’s one person you can trust and things. Most friendships now seem to lack that emotional and personal depth, if you have that you’re a lucky person. =]</p>
<p>Edit:sgtpepper08, I agree. There’s probably this level of me that no one knows or even cares to know. It’s great to see you found others who could get to know you that well.</p>
<p>I suppose it’s the fact that i’m not getting a lot of attention or strong friendships. The girls I know are in the opposite situation and they have very few problems finding the right person to spend time with. They get a lot of attention from other guys and such…</p>
<p>I felt the exact same way. You don’t necessarily need a girlfriend, just someone somewhat close to you. I found someone who needed someone there for them so I dedicated a lot of time to them and that helped me too.</p>
<p>I tried doing that, we were pretty close at one point and I did whatever I could for her including listen. Though now she has other guys she’d rather spend time with and I’m really not much more than another average friend to her. That’s okay though, you live and learn and ultimately she seems happy so that worked out. =]</p>
<p>I’m a pretty good listener but it never works the other way around with people I find. That depth and level just isn’t there, so I usually don’t bother.</p>
<p>^ To be expected with women. You should find some homeboys to study/chill/smoke/drink with. It shouldn’t be that hard. Women, even just as friends, are a whole other challenge.</p>
<p>I feel the same way as you do sometimes…well, a lot of the time. As pretentious as it is, I feel like my friends don’t “get” me, which is why I’ve never had a best friend or a boyfriend for longer than a month. I feel like when I’m interacting with people that I exist somewhere outside the situation, that I am only there to observe and there’s someone else in my body moving and talking. </p>
<p>Yeah, girls don’t necessarily have it easier.</p>
<p>Honestly that’s how I felt in high school. I was not an un-social person to begin with in high school. I joined clubs, participated in softball, was in all sorts of extracurriculars. I just never really meshed that well with that many people, aside from my best friend and a few others (and admittedly, was a big nerd). Got to college, things change. Found a great group of friends, and never had any problems socially at school. Go back home for the summer after my first year of college, and everything is just like it was in high school - I have my few best friends and we hang out, I work, and go to class, but really otherwise I am more apathetic than anything about maintaining an “active” social life here. Kinda sad really, but it’s something I can live with now that college is again just around the corner. I don’t know if it will be the same for you, but I do know that college is often a place where people find their niche. Plus, it helps if you are living in a dorm with all students to be able to relate to each other more personally, and allows you to become closer to people past the acquaintance stage.</p>
<p>I was never really close with anyone in high school… kind of the same as a lot of people here in that I was somewhat social with a lot of people but nothing beyond that. Don’t despair! College was much better.</p>