<p>People...I did not start this thread so that you could comment on the nature of the person who passed away......I did it just to remind all ppl awaiting decision-letters not to take a decision letter so hard.
I want to tell that some of you are obsessed with collgee, but don't take a rejection so seriously......</p>
<p>GUYS, PLZ FOR GOD'S SAKE....STOP POSTING THINGS ABT OTHER PPL YOU DONT KNOW....AND JUDGE THEM BY A SINGLE ACTION....it could have even been a mistake..or a decision hastily taken.....anyone can do that....</p>
<p>Imagine (only imagine), that if a thing or a person that someone admired most was gone.....sth. very close.....he wud first feel utterly depressed in the beginning.....and (even if it were for a split second)..think of suicide........
NOw if he thought for a few mins. he'd come to realise suicide is not the best option.........but if a person thinking of suicide had a gun right next to him....he'd do it right away.......it is something that is possible in any human....</p>
<p>Some ppl suicide not for themselves, but b'coz of the one's that are close to them...their parents, lovd one's etc......</p>
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He is a failure
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I heard he was the MOST talented kid in his school of his batch....popular both inside and outside class....was ranked somewhere in top 5.....even started a temporary job (but high paying, since it was in a big and reputed school) of teaching for a few months till he went to college......he was popular over there too. Everyone was shocked at his rejection (not all knew abt. that at the time)...but even more at his actions......he just wasn't the type to suicide..
This also proves what is said earlier in the post......no matter how close you are to a person.....you never know how much he has hidden within himself.
NOW..I'd really appreciate if you could stop commenting on him!!!</p>
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College prestige is proportionalo to success
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That's the way it is for 99.9% of all college applicants....if what you say isn't true...Applicants wouldn't rush for Ivy league.....Even services in CC that claim to get you into an IVy wouldn't exist...since college rep wouldnt matter.....
ppl who graduate from Ivy's usually have 2-3 job offers from Top employers.....whereas ppl who graduate from state univs. usually have to send out their CVs out and hope that they just get a job......(exceptions are possible though...i'm speaking for the majority..)</p>
<h2>"Actually in some Asian countries, it's not uncommon to hear of someone committing suicide because they didn't get into a university...or so my sociology teacher just told our class today."</h2>
<p>My dad actually suggested suicide (I'm sure he didn't really mean it after all) when I had to take a gap year after being denied to three(limit to applying) universities in my country. He was really angry.</p>
<p>(Please think to everyone's selves, a lot of things hurt and I'd rather forget everything.)</p>
<p>Antarius: Maybe you should stop posting coz the more i read them the more irritated i am that there are people like you. I understand what you're saying about 'life is precious' and 'he's stupid to have done' crap but just sit down and count your blessing. Just because you never had to face disappoinment and even worse, disappoint your parents, teachers and friends does not give you the right to comment on anyone's action. Everything happens for a reason and every action taken by anyone has it's own meaning. You can say with ease that 'If i were him i'll never commit suicide' because like you said, you had never felt what he was goin through and in a way i hope you'll face difficulty one day so you'll finally understand how he felt. "Suicide is stupid and irresponsible" for me is for those contemplating suicide, not those who have done it. Maybe YOU are not 'life material'. NO hard feelings, just hope you'll at least sit down and think bout it, coz at the end of the day, who am i to judge??</p>
<p>Do you know what i hate the most......is when people are taught in society to say the "right" thing and tell others what they want to hear... give false support how are you suppose help him if you tell him what he is doing is not wrong.....well tough love.....that kid did something irrational and stupid...and he is no doubt regretting it....we should be worried about people who have REAL problems like depression which is a disease......
he ended his life prematurely because of a rejection letter.......can anyone see the idiocy in that.....people suffer from cancer ..people live in poverty and hunger... people lose loved ones and people suffer from mental and physical diseases....they would love to have had to live a long healthy life life .....it SHOCKS me in how ingrateful and weak some people can be!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!</p>
<p>as someone had already previously brought up, it is common in many countries, especially the asian ones such as china and japan. and i totally agree with jimbob1225 on jimbob's comment (woah lol feels weird writing that.. jimbob jimbob, ok. =|)</p>
<p>i think it's unfortunate that someone would commit suicide over a rejection letter but again it is many times based on culture and influence. people are sometimes overwhelmed by their utter feeling of failure and fear of the future without the dream to hold onto. some people cannot look past the immediate disaster and often associate it with failure in the future. i was at one point traumatized by my grades to suicide too, and i was at quite a young age. also i can attest that being asian and having grown up with those around me telling me that grades are The most important thing in life, that if i don't have good grades, i won't be able to go to college, and then i won't be able to get a job and then i'd be useless all played quite strongly into it. so to me, it's no surprise. although i have overcome those negative feelings about both myself and now attach a lot less importance to grades, i can move on. but i will never forget and will always be able to relate to those suicidal feelings about a failure academically. although that person or any person is by far no failure (in my opinion), we can only say that it's unfortunate he could not move out of those ideas.</p>
<p>if you commit suicide over acceptance to a college, you are weak and wouldnt have been happy anyways, just because you are sheltered and have never had anything go wrong doesnt mean you cannot overcome being rejected from a university</p>
<p>stop crying and whining and suck it up </p>
<p>suicide=not only failing at making it academically, failing at life aswell</p>
<p>first of all, failing is a subjective word. there is no argument on that.</p>
<p>i never ceased to be shocked and disappointed when i hear the harsh comments toward those people who are truly suicidal in the world. in the end, studies show that it is those people who refuse to listen and humanity toward those who have trouble finding the strength that exists inside each and every one of us that push the people who need their friends' and environments' help.</p>
<p>there is no crime for being weak and no one can fail at life. life is a gift and privilege albeit a natural course of this world, everyone chooses to live it differently or even not live it. in the end, if we can't find that spot within our hearts to reach out to those who were less fortunate than us to have grown up in an environment where there was no source of support except their own then we are the ones who are failing at being human. i am not saying that everyone should go volunteer and do that, or anyone is obligated to reach out to those people, but if you're going to comment negatively on a person who you did not know personally and are unable to relate to, then it's just sad.</p>