<p>"you WALK AWAY...that is what a real man does"-that's the stereotypical woman's point of view, I'm sorry.</p>
<p>Well it didn't sound as if they guy who got his nose broken was trying to start anything, especially if they were friends.</p>
<p>OMGosh, using the OP as an example to reduce fights...gee...what a thought!!!</p>
<p>Maybe if someone else was suspended recently, the OP might have thought about the consequences for attacking a guy who threw a ball at him, and if you aren't in emminent danger, you don't reasonably attack someone...the OP said he was "cool" with this guy, so did the OP think he was in danger? No he just lost his temper and now he is paying the consequences</p>
<p>So if you are walking down the hall, and some jerk pushes you as he passes, its okay to break his nose?</p>
<p>I would definitely push him back harder than he pushed me.</p>
<p>ah, the TRUTH comes out,, looking like a helpless idiot is the reason to broke his nose...your IMAGE...now you are just the fool who got suspended</p>
<p>If you had just said, dude, don't be a jerk...and continued on with your doing whatever you were doing, that is how mature men act</p>
<p>My H was at a luncheon and two grown men got into a fight, it was absurd and it was all about the ego</p>
<p>I DID NOT mean to punch his nose. I DID NOT mean to even punch him that hard. I was holding back. I told you, I was absolutely horrified when I saw blood. And there is no way that a reasonable person would get hit in the freaking face that hard and just walk away. And we're not really friends, just acquaintances, I guess.</p>
<p>This had nothing to do with my image. I would not be able to respect myself if I got hit hard and just let it go. Why in the world would you let someone who hurt you really hard just walk away and get away with it?</p>
<p>So, if a person comes into your house and kills your husband, you will tell him to just leave? You would want that guy in freaking jail.</p>
<p>The guy who I punched deserved some kind of punishment, and I admit that my way of punishing him was a bit too harsh, but he still could not just get away with it, which is what you wanted to happen.</p>
<p>Well if this doesn't affect his admission he has a reason to stay home from school, without accruing absences. Obviously, I agree, in retrospect if it affects his admission it certainly wasn't worth it. But, it probably won't if the story is explained right. Nor should it.</p>
<p>"I would not be able to respect myself if I got hit hard and just let it go."-My sentiments exactly.</p>
<p>I am a guy, and I must say that this thread disgusts me.</p>
<p>"I'm not saying oh lets go around breaking people's noses, but at least where I live if you start something you better be ready to finish it. That's life."</p>
<p>No, that's life for some people in the hood: Particularly the people who'll never leave the hood.</p>
<p>What you do is not life on college campuses, and it's not life for people who are heading out of the hood unless they'll be heading out feet first in a casket.</p>
<p>"The guy who I punched deserved some kind of punishment, and I admit that my way of punishing him was a bit too harsh, but he still could not just get away with it, which is what you wanted to happen."</p>
<p>? He threw a ball that hit you in the face and knocked off your glasses. Sounds like to me, he was doing one of those "think fast" things that didn't work out. He wasn't trying to hurt you. He expected you to knock the ball away, but you weren't able to do that. You could have laughed it off or just told him he was being a jerk, but instead you punched him because of getting smacked in the face with a ball! Your reaction to something that I'd consider stupid horseplay makes you seem like a wimp. It's not like he was trying to kill you or seriously injure you.</p>
<p>I am a woman, but the parent of a son, and I certainly can understand what happened. I don't believe citygirlsmom has a son. Trust me, it's a different deal.</p>
<p>My son hurt a kid in 8th grade. Badly. The kid (bigger) was beating up my son during a PE class while the teacher stood by and did nothing. My son got free (had been pinned on the ground), kicked out blindly at the kid with his foot and connected with the kid's mouth. The kid lost some teeth and it was pretty bad. My son, although small, was a star distance runner and had very strong legs. The other kid's dad was a meaner, scarier lawyer than I was and my son got expelled from school. It was all very horrible and actually life-changing for our son and our whole family. This was despite apologies, explanations, counselor intervention, student and parent accounts that "the wrong kid got the blame". So- I can relate to this incident. When you are hurt, even if unintentionally, it is not unusual to react with violence. Yes, in a perfect world it wouldn't happen, but it does. (the other kid, who was a real disaster, got booted the following year)</p>
<p>MOWC,
Defending oneself while being beaten up by someone who had pinned you to the ground isn't the same as punching someone after they throw a kickball at your face.</p>
<p>"Even if it was my best friend, I would have done it."</p>
<p>I think colleges look at disciplinary infractions to help guide admissions decisions because part of their job is to create a safe and peaceful learning community. It's understandable that they might have concerns about someone who breaks bones. </p>
<p>OP, I don't think anyone is saying that someone ought to throw a ball at your face and "get away with it". But wouldn't you feel better now if that student were suspended and worrying about his college acceptances rather than you? </p>
<p>FWIW I have a son and a daughter.</p>
<p>I think it was a similar reaction, though. Lashing out after being hurt and angry that you are hurt..... Of course, 8th grade is a little different than senior, but I can still completely understand how it happened.</p>
<p>NSM, I live in suburban NJ and I have been admitted to Stanford so I'm pretty sure I'm not "in the hood". It's life almost anywhere. The only reason I'd say there are some people here defending the school and berating the OP is that a great proportion of the people on this board are, dare I say...nerds or people who grew up in a really posh neighborhood. When you say stuff like I've never been in a physical fight before except with my sibling that just serves to underscore my point that you're in no way typical when it comes to this issue. This isn't a hood thing, or a maturity issue, this is a life issue. My parents told me when I was growing up that I better not come home to tell them I was beaten up and I didn't fight back. And I'm pretty sure this is not a singular experience.</p>
<p>Do you not see any alternatives between "letting it go" and breaking a nose? Those are not the only two possibilities. The OP would have served his own interests better if he'd taken a different course of action.</p>
<p>MD_Mom, clearly. I wouldn't have broken the nose, the OP didn't want to break the nose, nor would many normal people look specifically towards breaking a nose. However, when you're angry you might punch someone with unnecessary strength at the time.</p>
<p>OK. He might have punched less forcefully (or more accurately). Or he might have put his glasses back on and called the perpetrator's actions to the attention of the school. Then the other student would be dealing with the outcome rather than OP.</p>
<p>my parents would disown me if i broke someones nose. i prob would have just started yelling at the guy. i doubt it'll affect ur admissions if u tell the colleges first</p>
<p>wow ppl, back to the original topic- I dont think they'll care. I've known people who have gotten into college with suspensions on their records. An admissions director at Duke who came to my school said they didnt care very much about this kind of thing, they DO care about academic dishonesty though. I think your pretty safe</p>