I just started college but i'm so tired and stressed

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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I started college a few months ago but now i’m so tired and stressed. I don’t do well socially, so i absolutely have no friends there. Having panic or anxiety attacks are something i’ve grown used to. Whenever i mention i’m having a hard time no believes me. I just want to rest for today. What do i do. It’s hard to continue

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@Divana - keep telling people until they believe you. Tell your parents, your old friends, your teachers, a therapist… anyone who can help you map out how to handle and/or avoid the anxiety attacks.

Here’s the thing - college is hard. Especially if you are going to an academically challenging school the workload is heavy and it’s easy to get overwhelmed. Being overwhelmed when everyone else is also overwhelmed can be a bonding experience but since you haven’t made friends you feel like you’re alone. You’re not. It will get better … but first you have to survive where you are now.

Are you still killing yourself to make the grades you made in high school? Or are you struggling to pass your courses? Those are really different situations. If you’re struggling to pass courses, reach out to academic resources at your school and tell your parents! Get help, lighten your load - find a way to make this semester doable. If you’re killing yourself because you believe you are an “A” student and must always get "A"s… take a deep breath, put your computer down and go take a nap. When you wake up, look at your schedule and figure out where you can slack off just a little so you have time to take care of your mental, physical and social health. Put yourself first, not your grades. YOU are what matters and you can’t absorb a great education when you’re falling apart inside. You might even eventually find the workload easier to handle if you can get your overall happiness and health levels up.

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  1. Go to the college counseling center. It is there just for people like you…i bet you feel alone, like nobody else feels like this but really, tons of college kids do.
  2. They may refer you to a psychiatrist to get evaluated for social anxiety or depression. They may put you on medication.
  3. Read this for ideas on making friends. (but get the anxiety and depression resolved first)
    http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/college-life/1808143-having-trouble-adjusting-to-college-making-friends-top-10-things-to-do.html
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Taking a break and being kind to yourself is important. It’s okay to get grades lower than an A.

  • Are you taking time to get enough sleep?
  • Are you able to sleep because you're getting enough exercise? 1/2 hour of fresh air and a walk each day can work wonders for helping your body and mind relax.
  • Walking to class instead of taking a shuttle, for example, can add important physical activity that can help your relax mentally; the physical exercise creates the natural chemicals that relieves anxiety and heightens moods. Sunshine helps raise moods.
  • Listening to a funny podcast can also help, while you're walking or jogging.

Mostly though take time for self-care. Create a routine of making yourself feel good each day. That will help the anxiety and depression.

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thank you for the advices