<p>So it's spring break, and I came home for the week, catching up and hanging out with old friends and I completely forgot how happy I used to be.</p>
<p>I'm going to UC Davis right now and everything here is just so dull. The classes, the town, the people, the dorms, the parties, etc. I don't feel <em>nearly</em> as a strong of a connection to any of the people here compared to the people at my old high school. I'm just so..... unstimulated. It's depressing.</p>
<p>I literally give zero ***<em>s about my classes. All of the material they're teaching here I already know. I haven't met a single person here that I can truly relate to. I have gone to my lectures this quarter a total of *five</em> times, never studied for test, and pulled a not-so-solid 2.8 GPA.</p>
<p>In order to keep myself from going insane I've been programming an iPhone app during almost all of my free time in some hopes that I'll be able to just escape this soul-sucking place and just move back to my hometown, or some place random like Germany, I don't know.</p>
<p>I'm on the verge of dropping out or deferring because I can't ****ing take it anymore. I hate it here.</p>
<p>I honestly don't know why I feel this way. I dunno if it's because college isn't for me, or if it's because I chose the wrong college... </p>
<p>I agree. I think you should definitely consider transferring, because I don’t understand how ANYONE can see high school as better than college unless he/she is at a college that is really unsuited for him/her.</p>
<p>I went to a high school with 3,000 students. Not small, haha.</p>
<p>But would the lack of my ability to find and make true friends here (and not just acquaintences), does that really have to do with the fact that I’m at the wrong college or should I just be more open minded?</p>
<p>Cheesylard, could be both. If you aren’t open-minded to meeting new people and making friends, you’ll have pre-judged everyone you meet and find reasons to hate them. At a school with 30k+ students, I think you need an open mind and start proactively socializing to find people you truly connect with. </p>
<p>I transferred from a small uni to one with just under 30k students and yes it is VERY difficult to make new and true friends. It took me two semesters to even meet new people, but I had to go out and try. Big schools take a ton more effort to make friends.</p>
<p>Or you really could be at the wrong college, but I feel like if you don’t open your mind up to some positivity, you won’t even know if it’s just your attitude or the school itself.</p>
<p>Believe me, I tried to be positive fall quarter.</p>
<p>I live in Cuarto which is basically like an apartment. So no floormates. Just me and my roommate.</p>
<p>This might have been a huge problem for most, but at the time of admittance I smoked a lot of pot so I made a lot of stoner friends fairly quickly. My doubts about Davis were beginning to fade away. However towards the beginning of winter quarter some drama happened and I realized how shallow and two-faced the “clique” I joined was, so as a personal choice I cut myself off from all of them and stopped smoking weed. So basically the only people I could call friends here are my roommate and one of my friends from high school that also decided to go here. I basically gave up on my social life, girls, etc.</p>
<p>I went to a small but friendly high school and loved it. Now I go to a small, isolated, and cliquey college and strongly dislike it. </p>
<p>Lullabies, I am thinking about transferring to a big state school. Why was it harder for you to make friends at the bigger school compared to the small school? Cause it’s pretty tough for me here at a small school, where there are very few clubs and no greek life or partying.</p>
<p>I had the same thing happen with me! Loved high school, went to a medium size private college where the odds were not anywhere close to my favor which im now applying to multiple state schools</p>
<p>katrocious,
It might have been because I dormed at the small private school and I commute to my current big state school. I made friends w/ people in my building.</p>
<p>Also, the massive amounts of lecture-style classes in big schools deter you from befriending people. Most people just walk in and walk out of class all semester without speaking to anyone. </p>
<p>Anyway, I actually do love my big state school 100x more than my small private school even though it took more effort to make friends. </p>
<p>P.S., it’s clique-y at a big school too IMO. There’s also a noticeable wall between Greeks and non-Greeks, and within the Greeks, there’s some cliques too.</p>
<p>You want to go where everyone knows your name. But that place is in the past. No one knows your name at UCD so it’s not nearly as much fun. Stick to UCD and build your future. The alternative is to live in the past.</p>
<p>@cheesylard: I personally feel like you’re just in a little down time because of the drama that happened. Usually when you cut all ties with someone or a group of people, it becomes challenging to get back up socially (it’s happened to me before and afterwards comes a stage of strange depression). I think you just need some time to figure out where the right people are for you at UCD. It’s a school with 30,000-something kids… I don’t doubt they exist somewhere.</p>
<p>I go to UCD. I also had a rather big high school too, and I do miss high school. I think college is just a different experience, as I will NEVER compare high school to college for a lot of reasons. </p>
<p>But I am challenged here at UCD, so maybe, just maybe transferring may be the way academically for you to find challenging courses. But everything /is/ entry level as a freshman, so maybe wait a bit.</p>
<p>I also love this place to death, so I am a bit biased toward UCD. But finding friends that become more than acquaintances is hard at this big school (especially for an introvert like me). Consider a transfer to a smaller school but give UCD more of a chance.</p>
<p>If you live in Cuarto it can be hard to meet people in your dorm, and basically all my friends last year were from my floor. I think you need to get involved in clubs. It can be frustrating sifting through the ones that aren’t too social, but finding one that really suits you will be worth it. Maybe go out of your comfort zone and try a sports club. Seriously, our school has over 30,000 students; you can find people you click with if you put in the effort. It’s not like high school where you’re with students 7 hours a day, 5 days a week. It now takes effort to form friendships and make them last, and that’s true at every college.</p>
<p>And I’m with RubyGirl, I freaking love UC Davis. It’s possible that you chose the wrong college, but more than likely you need to develop a strong group of friends. Just to give you an idea of what’s out there, I’m in AggieTV and this quarter I’ll be rushing a frat and trying out waterski/wakeboard club. I’ll also be an Orientation Leader this summer (on campus jobs can be a good way to meet people.) Also, don’t forget that you might not have one core group of friends; it’s possible you’ll meet people from all over and form smaller groups of friends.</p>
<p>Hope this helped some, and good luck this quarter! Seriously, try to get involved :)</p>
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