<p>hoveringmom:</p>
<p>I'm sorry to hear about your son. I hope he's doing better now.</p>
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Unsurprisingly - in retrospect - when he got into NYU (major scholarship), he was completely unable to handle the work load--he had no coping skills at all.
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<p>Completely unsurprising, to me - I didn't really learn how to study until college, and it showed in my grades the first two years. (Actually, I'm still learning how to study, even now!) Things came easily to me in high school. Being intelligent was enough to compensate in just about all deficiencies in study skills and time management. Not so in college!</p>
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As the above person says, NYU is NOT a nurturing kind of place; the resources are definitely there (and they're great) but they do NOT throw them on your lap.
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<p>Kids, if you won't listen to me, maybe you'll believe hoveringmom! This is what I've been trying to say for the last 4 years on this forum.</p>
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Believe me, do not take this lightly. It takes a VERY mature person to handle living in New York with all the distractions, living on a meagre budget (remember, he's on major scholarship) and coping with handling true challenge for the first time.
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<p>Again, wise words.</p>
<p>londonb:</p>
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I am astonished at the sheer numbers applying to NYU, many of whom have never set foot on the campus.
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<p>I'm kind of astonished, too. I applied for NYU with no idea of the trendiness of the school, and to be honest, even as an alum it still baffles me.</p>
<p>I also cannot understand the people who decide to attend without having ever been on the campus.</p>
<p>milkandsugar:</p>
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I keep asking and checking in with her.
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<p>I think you're taking the right approach. I'm sure your daughter feels better knowing that you care about how she's doing.</p>