<p>I've always wanted to join a sorority, it's not something that I HAD to do, just something I wanted. I went through formal recruitment this week and on preference night I got dropped from the sorority that I felt really comfortable in and at home with, unfortunately. My second choice, which is also the "popular" sorority on campus invited me back. My college only has four sororities and they only allow you to choose your top two, so our options were pretty limited. Since I only got invited back by them, I of course put them as number one on my preference card. This morning, bid day, I was having major second thoughts. I decided to go through with it and except their bid, but I think I'm already regretting it. The girls are all really nice, but after spending most of today with them I'm honestly not sure if I can see myself becoming best friends with these girls. I had major anxiety all day today because I'm not sure if I want to stay or leave before it's too late. I have a lot of these girls in my classes that I sit next to and I'm afraid that if I decide to leave they will shun me or be rude. I'm going to give it a few more days, but I just don't feel comfortable at all anymore and it's giving me really bad anxiety. If I do decide to drop out and not go through initiation how do I go about doing it? Who do I contact, what do I do, and when? I just need advice ASAP from anyone who's been in this situation or can just give me advice in general.</p>
<p>I never was in a Sorority, but I am turning 60, so I have a few years more experience than you. Talk to an advisor,or a teacher about your situation. Personally, I would back out if you have so much anxiety already. On the other hand, my sister was in a sorority and she is 53, and some of her closest friends are people she met back then! Good luck.</p>
<p>I don’t think there’s any harm in waiting. You can quit after initiation if you want (I did). This is supposed to be fun, so relax, enjoy meeting people and making friends, and give yourself plenty of time to decide. If a few months from now you decide it’s not what you want, just tell whomever is in charge that your priorities have changed, you need to focus on grades, whatever reason you want to give. </p>
<p>Some sororities will take this harder than others. Mine told me that I was “dead to them” - lol. Just reaffirmed my decision to quit. Some people stopped talking to me. Didn’t bother me, as it was a large campus, but if yours is small, it’s something to consider.</p>
<p>I would also wait it out till initiation time because friendships can’t be made that quickly. Defiantly keep making an effort and hopefully it will change.</p>