<p>I dont get you. You want friends but then you dont. You want people to be nice to you but when they are you deflect. </p>
<p>I tried <em>sigh</em></p>
<p>I’m very sorry for doing it. I’m very sorry. It’s just that I have so little trust in people. It’s from years of experience with people who’ve tried, and then who started hating me.</p>
<p>Did you ask them why they hated you?</p>
<p>They ignore my e-mails.</p>
<p>No, they tell WHITE LIES all the time. They say nothing is wrong when in reality lots of things are wrong. It happens SO MANY TIMES I gave up on people</p>
<p>Does anyone have experience with craigslist? Are there any smart (CC-level intelligence) people there? Who aren’t fat? So many of the pictures are of fat people. >:(</p>
<p>Please, what dating site has the largest number of girls with CC-esque intelligence? Who aren’t fat?</p>
<p>And are girls seeking boys more likely to be murdered than boys seeking girls???</p>
<p>Perhaps you are misinterpreting what they are insinuating.</p>
<p>Have you considered joining clubs?</p>
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<p>I’m not. It happens so frequently and they’re so enthusiastic in talking to other people. it’s frustrating as hell. They decide they don’t want me and then they ditch me like that. </p>
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<p>There are none for people with my interests. I can’t broaden myself to those interests. my interests are all in obscure things.</p>
<p>^#1. I highly recommend not using CraigsList</p>
<h1>2. Aren’t you the guy who likes ducks or whatever? Make a club showing your appreciation for obscure interests…and maybe someone will join and become friends with you.</h1>
<p>This may sound confrontation, but I think that you need to hear this.</p>
<p>Based off of what you have written, you seem to be obsessed with this idea that individuals aren’t fond of you because of who you are. You seem to be under the impression that because of your autism, others don’t comprehend your social and personal tendencies and preferences. You’re seeking others who you believe may comprehend who you are, and you possess the hope that someone else is like you and will understand you.</p>
<p>Despite these beliefs though, there are individuals who care about you, whether you like it or not. From what I comprehend, you seem to hold this belief that no one cares about you. Yet how can you state that when a multitude of individuals have attempted to befriend and assist you? Perhaps their attempts haven’t been successful because you won’t enable them to be successful. In order to fully receive help you need to attribute your time in return. Solely expecting others to come to you is not an effective mentality. </p>
<p>There are alternative individuals who possess similar interests to you. If there is not an existing club that intrigues you, why not formulate your own? You may find others who are intrigued by similar aspects.</p>
<p>Perhaps this website can serve as a benefactor as well:</p>
<p>[Finding</a> other Autistics - Social Skills and Making Friends](<a href=“http://uk.wrs.yahoo.com/_ylt=A0oGk3ByhONLPKYA8mZLBQx.;_ylu=X3oDMTByZ3RtN3J1BHNlYwNzcgRwb3MDMgRjb2xvA3NrMQR2dGlkAw--/SIG=11ugjifor/EXP=1273288178/**http%3A//www.wrongplanet.net/postt25250.html]Finding”>http://uk.wrs.yahoo.com/_ylt=A0oGk3ByhONLPKYA8mZLBQx.;_ylu=X3oDMTByZ3RtN3J1BHNlYwNzcgRwb3MDMgRjb2xvA3NrMQR2dGlkAw--/SIG=11ugjifor/EXP=1273288178/**http%3A//www.wrongplanet.net/postt25250.html)</p>
<p>Ultimately, committing suicide is not worth it. Life is worth living, you just have to find your way.</p>
<p>Wow Wartsy, good find…</p>
<p>So I don’t have any form of autism. But I’m awkward around the guys I like and that’s probably why I can’t land a boyfriend. Then theres the friend thing–I have friends but not friends in the sense that I can talk to someone about my hopes and fears. I linger around people praying to have a better position in my hs community. I too have trust issues. However. Suicide. isn’t. going. to. heal. anything. Tomorrow things can get better. Maybe being autistic prevents you from seeing this and although I hate saying this because I don’t fully buy into it, it’ll say it because it seems to be one of your central points. We long for a lot of things–and for a lot of reasons we dont have it today. Maybe we had it yesterday or never had it at all. But that doesnt matter. The possibility that today you can do one thing to help you get to where you want to be matters. Maybe knowing that you’re not alone won’t help you much but I’ll say it–there are many teens out there who want what you want and for whatever reason they dont have it. Some take the route of death, the courageous decide to keep hope, to believe that although the situation they are in seems unbearable that there is some good in their life and that things will get better. THings will get better. You just have to take a deep breath and take steps no matter how small, to feel better about yourself. So what you have obscure interests research clubs/organizations that allow you to meet new people. It’s not easy and it isnt as simple as it sounds but thats what its all about–keep hope. I’m still hoping. I won’t stop. I hope you don’t either.</p>
<p>Also I care , as well as many of the other people who responded to you. How can you then say that no one in your actual life cares when strangers are reaching out to you? People care about you.
Extra cheesy, well aware…</p>
<p>Try relating to people. You don’t have to have everything in common. But take one little thing and expand on it. And maybe don’t be too expressive of yourself immediately and reveal your other tendencies that cause people to unfriend you over time. It might give people more time to understand you.</p>
<p>@InquisitiveOne: Obviously people do care about you since this thread is long. I get that you lost faith in humanity–but I hope that you haven’t lost faith in yourself and your own abilities. People lie, steal, break promises everyday. That’s a fact. But it’s also a fact that people reach out to help others, save lives, fulfill promises, make dreams come true every day too. Life can’t always give everyone a royal flush but if you play it smart, if you don’t give up–you can end up a winner. Don’t give up. And don’t stop risking your heart and faith because if you never reach out, you can never gain; just be smart about it and pick people who consistently prove their worth.</p>