@apost12,
You really need the straight no chaser talk.
Your parents have told you that they are only willing to pay 12k for you and your twin sibling to attend college. The reality is that 12K is not going to cover the fees room and board costs at many schools.
Unless you are attending school where you have family/friends that you can stay with, you are still going to have to get back and forth to school minimally 4 times a year (2 round trip tickets) fall, round trip winter break, round trip spring , home for the term. You have to get yourself to and from the airport ( I remember it being about $100 going from school to airport and going from the airport to our home- in the city). those $$ add up.
Your EFC for 2 kids in college is more than the COA at SUNY.
While you have a great SAT score, your overall gpa is too low to get you into the honors program at Albany, Bing, UB and Stony Brook where min GPA is 95. Your GPA is 92, which is lower that the low end gpa at most of the other Honors college. You will be picked up regular admissions, with some token money, but not enough to put a dent in to what you will have to pay full freight at SUNY.
With the Excelsior scholarship, SUNY is now becoming more competitive, because those who fall with in the income limits are now taking advantage of free tuition.
If you plan to stay at Rockland to get your associates, take start researching their articulation agreements now.
http://www.sunyrockland.edu/campus-life/services/transfer/transfer-agreements/articulation-agreements
If your parents can bank their 12k for 2 years (24k) and 12k junior and senior year you will have enough to finish virtually debt free. Otherwise, if you can borrow your freshman, sophomore and junior amounts ($5500+6500+7500) you will have enough to cover your remaining 2 years with out onerous debt.
At the end of the day, you have to go where your grades and money will take you. The pool is wide and the pool is deep when it comes to families chasing merit. there will be students with your same scores who will have GPAs that will knock you out of the box and are also willing to follow the money.