<p>look at her relationship stat, is she listed as single?
look at her "looking for", is she looking for an relationship?</p>
<p>"myspace is the new booty call"</p>
<p>@BeKindRewind</p>
<p>your advice sounds extremely creepy to me... Girls were doing this to me!!</p>
<p>Itll probably end up being awkward cause you'll know a lot about her, and she knows nothing about you. But the thing is when girls are interested in a guy they do their own research, so I'm finding it mildly curious that she didn't reply to you. If she were to be interested in you she probably would've replied to your messages. but then again she never met you in real life, so that might have something to do with it =)</p>
<p><<<<ive been="" obsessing="" over="" her="" and="" now="" i="" really="" want="" to="" give="" a="" good="" impression.="" went="" clothes="" shopping="" the="" other="" day="" im="" also="" getting="" cool="" new="" haircut.="" hopefully="" everything="" will="" go="" smoothly.....="">>>></ive></p>
<p>haha you can't be serious dude....</p>
<p>^</p>
<p>haha what's wrong with that... first date duh?</p>
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<p>Um. . . . .</p>
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now i dont want it to be awkward or anything, so how do i start this conversation,
this can happen as soon as wed( my first day of classes) im excited and also terrified because ive been obsessing over her and now i really want to give her a good impression. i went clothes shopping the other day and im also getting a cool new haircut. hopefully everything will go smoothly.....any advice??????????
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Here's some advice: let it go. She's not into you. Salvage what dignity you have remaining and forget about her. Next time you're interested in a girl, grow a pair, get properly introduced, and ask for her number in person.</p>
<p>ok heres an update...for anyone who still cares lol
alright so college starts again about 3 weeks ago. I immediatly tell my roomate about the situation, and he pretty much already knew.(me and this kid have become like best friends)he tells me he has two classes with her, one of which ends at 9. I ask him if he could introduce me and he says sure...but it cant seem like it's planned. so we set it up by them ending their class and walking over to the cafe, where I will already be.we made the plan on monday and schedule this for wed.(this girl is a commuter and only comes to school,Mon,Wed, Fri). however that day(mon) i went to the library with one of my friends and we went into the elevator. I look down at my phone, then looked up and there she was, right in front of me. I realize this is my shot to introduce myself...without even the help of my roomate. I introduce my self, and she remembered me!!!!!
we talk for like 20 seconds because we got off at the floor below her stop. this was perfect. then wed came and our plan worked perfectly, we sat down and just talked for an hour, nothing was awkward at all. that same day, I get a notification on facebook, and i find out she commented on my status. and then just yesterday she commented on one of my pics!!!! It feels soooooo good now, because she is the one doing the facebook thing. were meeting up again on wed, and I cant wait. Im really glad im starting to become friends with her, because know i atleast have a basis. Anyway thanks for all the help guys!!!!!!</p>
<p>Good going dude. A few tips:</p>
<p>1) Flirt! Touch her. Put your arm around her while being confident and playful. This should hopefully create some sexual tension between the two of you to avoid being lumped into her friend zone from which you have no chance of escaping.
2) Don't get too attached. This means stop thinking about her so much, live your life.
3) Don't make yourself too available. </p>
<p>Good luck and have fun! :)</p>
<p>BeKindRewind, I guess you read about TMM too, : )</p>
<p>OP, If I were you, I would take some of BeKindRewind advices and check out that website link I sent you. The most important thing to remember is that you should convince yourself that you are the chooser, you have options. Right now your thinking process is something like this: OMG, she is so amazing, she is so hot, what can I do to get her to like me? What can I do to make myself worthy of her? Basically you have put her on a pedestal.</p>
<p>DONT THINK LIKE THAT. </p>
<p>Instead you should be thinking, is she worthy of me? With so many amazing girls around in the world, what makes her so special that she deserves my attention. Rember, you are the selecter. </p>
<p>The best way to get a girl is to risk loosing her. Don't give a **** about her opinion of you. Don't care or worry about the outcome, be detached from the outcome. Try giving yourself more value than you have given her for once.</p>
<p>yea, and just ask her out.</p>
<p>Thanks guys!!!!</p>
<p>how u doin with this girl now? </p>
<p>and alwaysfaithful- tmm?</p>
<p>ok heres ans update!!!!
since this girl is a commuter, i can really only see her mon/wed/fri. she's really only free in the mornings, and I usually sit down and talk to her like twice a week. I bought her coffee and some food one day and it was really nice, but I wouldnt consider it a date. One day out of nowhere, my roomate and I were going to a friends house off campus. As we were walking to her house we realized that this girls car was parked right in front of my friends house. Apparently we walked into HER birthday party.This was great because i could spend time with her off campus. We had cake, talked and she left early cuz she had work. This girl hangs out with guys. she hangs out with this one group of like quiet pharmacy guys, guys that im friends with. recently one of her best freinds, whos obvi a guy, has been really wanting to hang out with me and my roomate. I really dont know what to think of this. Anyway, I havent seen this girl in like a week because of spring break, and I'm excited to see her on Monday. I was wondering if I should go back to the facebook thing, now that were legit friends.</p>
<p>Here's the deal, kid. I know this girl is special. I know this girl is amazingly beautiful. I know she might be what you consider worthy of dating. But one word of advice: Do not dwell on it too much. Explore your options, see what's out there. Because chances are, this girl is probably a stone-hearted b**** who will end up breaking your heart.</p>
<p>Sorry to break it to you, scot, you are heading to the LJBF zone, "Let's just be friends"</p>
<p>dude...chill LOL
it sounds like you have experience, I get what your saying though, I really have to stop obsessing over her. I dont know she just seems soooo perfect. She's attractive, outgoing, smart and she's the same religion as me and were from the same country. I mean...why not right?????</p>
<p>lol, you seem like you're walking into the same trap I did in my previous relationship... relying on another person to make you happy. Seriously take the advice of people on here and try not to obsess over this person; make sure you're doing other things you enjoy and that you don't find yourself giving up time with your friends to be with this girl or her group. Good luck with everything, but just remember these things don't always work out the way you want so don't make this girl the center of your life or anything.</p>
<p>Jesus man, it's been four months you've been obsessing over this chick!</p>
<p>Listen, do you really think her sexual attraction/ desire to start a relationship with you is actually gradually increasing over this time period? Do you think the more time you hang out with her, the more and more you are "winning her over," like punching in a time clock? Because those are both dangerous mindsets and they are both dead wrong.</p>
<p>Look, this girl either likes you romantically, or she doesn't - and from my vantage point situations like this - where you obsess over someone - rarely end favorably.</p>
<p>If you're familiar with evo psych, you've merely "pair-bonded" (brain chemical alteration) with this girl before getting in a relationship. You're supposed to pair-bond once in a relationship to ensure that you'll stick around for the kids, theoretically. But not during the courting phase. You're imagining being with her/ delusions about her being a goddess - combined with not making a move on her whatsoever - has led to your current predicament, which is not good.</p>
<p>See if you had making a move right away - which I'm sure our apish ancestors did - you would have either succeeded (great) ----- or got rejected, in which case, you would feel terrible for 15 minutes and move on (now the "feel terrible" phase will last longer - maybe a week or two).</p>
<p>Seriously dude, forget this chick or find out right away if it's going to happen or not (make a move, so to speak). And don't come back here asking us what exactly you should do to put the moves on her. There are volumes on that nonsense that you'll never sort out. Pretend the internet doesn't exist, and try to make something happen with your own wits. It'll work or she'll tell you she doesn't like you that way, either way you're cured of this predicament.</p>
<p>But frankly this is painful to hear. And you can't "logically" convince someone that should be together. An ugly, old fat girl can be from the same religion and country as you, and be really smart too - but it doesn't matter in terms of raw attraction. There have been girls that I really, really liked - like her personality, her sense of humor, her outlook - and those things are undoubtedly attractive - but the girls weren't my physical type - so as much as I WANTED to WANT them, I couldn't. And that just shows you what many people have said before - attraction is not a choice.</p>
<p>I'd forget this girl.</p>