Hi I have a problem my girlfriend who has been cutting herself recently and i really do love this girl and she is the first girl and im the first guy she ever kissed. I want break up with her because 1. I cant be good to her or be there because I know nothing about depression. 2.Each and every day i have been depressed and wondering if she is going to kill herself and I dont want to worry about that in my life right now. 3.she didnt even tell me her best friends boyfriend told and she has kept a lot from me so yeah if u know what I can do please hep
idk man, I just didn’t want to be another unhelpful view without a reply
do you know what’s been causing her depression? maybe if you could sit her down and confront the issue then she would keep less from you and you would feel more comfortable around her
Well she is adopted right then her parents got a divorce after she got adopted. Yeah i could see that we should talk about it.
I’m a parent. It’s truly wonderful that you are trying to be so nice and supportive of your girlfriend. But this is an issue that is really beyond your experience and knowledge and you can’t hold yourself responsible for her. Instead, you should go to your high school counselor and discuss it with them and have them help her. She needs more help than you can give her, and she might also need some medicine in addition to skilled talk therapy with someone who has studied this for multiple years.
Thank u tommorow I am going to do that and tr to get her the help she needs idk if her parents know everything yet.
As melvin123 posted, this needs to be brought to the attention of an adult at school ASAP. She needs professional help to get better. This is serious. How much contact do you have with her? If you can just say nothing for the time being while she gets help, that might be easier for her. At the same time, have good boundaries for yourself.
okay thank u i will do so thank u for all your help
I dealt with everything me and my parents contacted theirs and she is now getting the help she deserves I hope everything turns out all right but she hates me now and she wants me gone from her life and from this world so yeah thanks u all for responding and helping its means the wrld.
You may have saved her life. She may be upset now but you did the right thing. Talk to your parents and get support from them and your friends for yourself.
You did absolutely the correct thing. You should feel good about yourself. She needs time to heal. When in these situations always get adult help. If you have contact with her parents they will let you know when you can contact her. She might be out of school for a bit.
Yes you did exactly the right thing in notifying a parent. She will get the help she needs.
News flash the girl cut herself 10 times her best friend told me and now I think I’ve done the wrong thing what now?
News flash the girl cut herself 10 times her best friend told me and now I think I’ve done the wrong thing what now?
she is in the hospital and she is spaming my phone now what do I do should I answer or stay quiet i’m tempted to see what she wants.
If she’s in the hospital she’s getting the help she needs. You absolutely did the right thing, don’t second guess it. I would ask your parents if they think contact is a good idea.
I think you should tell your parents. My D experienced the same thing. Her BF was texting her from hospital. Sending photos of his injuries. She blocked his number. We told his parents that she would not be responding. Eventually, the situation calmed down. You really need to set boundaries and ask for help in how to do that.
You are not trained to help her. She needs to turn to her family and the professionals.
Have your parents talk to her parents ASAP, and have them ask her parents if and how they would like you to respond. This could be another cry for help or she might be enraged at you. By having her parents involved, you can be assured someone is checking up on her safety.
You should definitely tell your parents, and they should tell her parents. I’m wondering why she still has her phone.
I’m sorry you’re going through all this. I agree with the others that you might have saved her life by getting adults involved so she can get the help she needs. If you feel overwhelmed by everything that’s going on, don’t be afraid to ask for some professional help yourself. It’s hard enough for adults with a lot of life experience to know how much contact to have and how to respond to some of these things, so dont feel bad about saying you don’t know what to do and need more experienced help.
As stated, have your parents talk to her parents first. She is getting the help she needs because of you. Feel good about that. Since school is just starting put your energies there.
Tell your parents. Let the adults handle this. You did the right thing even if it doesn’t feel this way.
Possibly block her number temporarily or turn off your phone for now.