<p>Two things jump out at me: One, you are a very smart young lady that I know will be happy no matter where you end up (I am betting Cornell). And two, you write, “I’m a sweet girl from New York.” That is so much more important than the first. There are many smart kids out there, there doesn’t seem to be many “sweet” ones. Hang in there! It WILL work out. Keep us up to date on where you get in and where you end up going.</p>
<p>3 great colleges in a year of the most applications to college ever? Congratulations! Go to Ann Arbor, work hard and have fun. ALthough I would imagine that you’ll hear positively from others this week. I agree with the poster that said request for FA may have put you on some waitlists. Most importantly though, listen to your mom. Although it may seem like she is saying nice things just to be nice, its not true. She is saying nice things b/c who else is closer to you and who else knows you best? Trust her, she is saying nice things because she means them and knows that youve worked really hard.</p>
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<p>You’ve got a lot on your plate right now. Consider getting some counseling. Having someone to talk to for an hour or two will make you feel much better. You are thinking and feeling things that you don’t want to burden your parents with. Being able to talk to someone outside the family may be very helpful.</p>
<p>And I agree with those who’ve pointed out that so far, you’ve got fantastic college choices, and you might even get a few more!</p>
<p>But do be kind to yourself. This is a lot to handle right now.</p>
<p>Sweetie, no one can expect to apply to only top schools and get into more than a handful of them. The fact that so many of them waitlisted you is quite a compliment–your work of the past four years is in no way diminished by acceptances to Carleton and Michigan. Every year on CC there’s a post from some poor 2400/4.0/valedictorian/class president kid who applied only to HYPSM and got rejected by all of them. It is simply no reflection on you–it’s fit, class mix, geographic mix, anyone’s guess! Michigan rejected about 60% of applicants for 2008 (to say nothing of what percentage of OOS they rejected) and Carleton rejected more than 70%. Sure, some of them were reaching, but most of them had the stats to think they had a shot at acceptance.</p>
<p>Any young woman who applied to the lot of schools you applied to with your stats is a take-charge person if ever there was one! Wait 'til all your decisions are in, choose a great school (you can’t go wrong with ANY of them) and be proud of your options and the fact that you earned them.</p>
<p><strong><em>Hug</em></strong></p>
<p>thanks all…=)</p>
<p>You certainly did NOT waste any of your HS years- you have prepared yourself to succeed in a good college- any of the 3 you already are accepted to will be good places to stretch yourself. There are many students with equal or better stats than yours at both of the state flagship schools- think about the Honors program wherever you go. It sounds like you applied to most of the top schools you heard of, it would be horrible to have to sift through all of them to decide this spring- you now have a more manageable number to choose from. You have to remember that there are far more well qualified students than places in all of the elite/top schools so many who could do well at those schools have to be rejected. </p>
<p>Now is a good time to decide which of the 3 midwest schools you feel is the best fit for you. If you get accepted to a college in a different region consider if that area/school is better than your current first choice. Take all of the schools you don’t have a clear acceptance out of the running unless you hear you are accepted, you then compare that school to your top pick. </p>
<p>Right now you are stressed out by many impending life changes. The loss of home and parents’ being together probably seems to come at a time when there is too much else going on, there is never a good time for those. It sounds like the major shocks have already come and you can plan on your freshman year in college having already dealt with these. Now is the time to look at the bright side of things. Your parents kept the house and marriage together long enough for you to finish out your childhood in the same setting. You will go away to a good college and start your life as a young adult.</p>
<p>!!!Big hug!!! </p>
<p>I think you’ll see more acceptances too (Cornell) but you have to remember. it doesn’t matter where you didn’t get in, just where you did. Focus on the positive. (I know of a girl who only applied to reaches last year including all the ivy league schools, no safeties, and got into Brown. Dumb strategy but it is possible to get into a top, top school even after being denied at a bunch of LACs. I think the LACs are just so small that they need almost every kid to fit into a niche to be able to field all the sports, fill all the ensembles, and say they have someone from every state, with good male/ female and urm numbers.) </p>
<p>As far as the divorce… My parents divorced after I was out of the house too. It was hard but I will admit it was much easier than had they divorced when I was still home. You will adjust and adapt. Hopefully, since your parents were already planning on paying for your tuition, that’s all in place and the divorce won’t affect that much.</p>
<p>If I may suggest something, it sounds like your parents may also need a hug from you.</p>
<p>Going through a divorce, on top of having to sell the house has to be devastating to them as well as to you, so any emotional support you can supply them would be most helpful.</p>
<p>Let them know how much you care about both of them, and try to make it clear to them that you will do whatever is necessary to carry them through this tough time–even if that may mean putting off your college plans on a temporary basis.</p>
<p>I’m sure they will do whatever they can to help you when times are better again–and you being willing to do wha is necessary to support the family in these tough times will be most appreciated, both now–and later.</p>
<p>Best of luck to you and your family.</p>
<p>Dear rhyn0: I am truly sorry to hear about your parents divorcing and the related emotional upheavals.</p>
<p>On the college front you are in fantastic shape!!! Congratulations!!! Carleton is a great school, Michigan is awesome, and Wisconsin is excellent. You have a great selection. And I am not kidding, I know something about the fields you are interested in. Some of the most respected leaders in these fields are at the schools you have mentioned (I would probably vote for Michigan).</p>
<p>Among the schools that are left on your list I think Columbia might be stronger than Michigan in Neuroscience but it might be a good idea to leave New York for 4 years and come back for graduate school if you want.</p>
<p>And don’t feel too bad about the divorce, you will probably be able to keep your relationships intact with both your parents even when you are at college.</p>
<p>I just have to say… all these posts from dads makes me miss mine terribly. Nothing can make you believe it will all work out more than a hug from Dad and his saying it will.</p>
<p>I think one thing that sticks out from all these posts is that it really doesn’t matter how many great schools accept you, you can only attend one and you have, even without hearing from the rest, some great choices. Don’t focus on what you didn’t get (although it must seem like you’re getting ripped off in all directions these days). Let yourself to feel, shed the tears, but seriously, focus on the positive.</p>
<p>My parents divorced my sophomore year in college. It was really horrible coming home to a million changes, holidays in two different places and on and on. I totally get how you’re feeling. Been there. Personally, I think splitting up when kids are small is far easier cuz it’s the lost traditions that are the hardest to get through IMO. But get through it you will. You do not accomplish what you have without a lot of grit and determination. ((((((((HUG)))))))))</p>