My kids started in public school and while my daughters were obedient and not creating much waves, my son absolutely hated it. Classes were boring, he was told not to work “too fast”, etc. He was rebelling and I had to pick him from school more than one time. In the end, I moved all of them to private school. The kids told me that what would be covered in public school in one week, was covered in private school in 3 days. No more calls back home, teachers somehow managed to awaken their interest. As far as high school, we had the choice of magnet school versus private versus online. My son opted for online and the girls went to magnet schools. we were lucky to have these options and not for one minute did I feel that it was unfair, since none of these things came from thin air, we worked years to make them happen.
Giving to charity and helping a fellow in need is one thing but having generic feelings or " guilt and inequality" because you did your duty as a parent, is juvenile at best.