We thought long and hard before pulling our kid out of public school for private college prep HS. I was very active at school and volunteered in classrooms weekly for years. I do believe that if everyone had to send their kids to public school, the quality of education would be better for all.
That said, I think we are probably like most parents in that we are selfish when we come to our kid. She had one shot of a good education and we weren’t willing to gamble with keeping her in a school with so few academic opportunities.
We didn’t hire tutors or admissions consultants but we also didn’t have to because that was built in to her school.
Bottom line is that the socioeconomic divide and advantages from growing up with relative wealth are very real.
It’s a fine ethical line.